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My (32F) best friend (29F) just found out that her on and off again FWB knocked her up. He wants to terminate, she refuses, even though sheās not in a place financially or emotionally to raise a child on her own. Sheās been fired from 4 different jobs in the last year and a half and she has a lot of unprocessed trauma from the sudden passing of her late boyfriend a few years back. I feel like sheās doing a disservice to the child by keeping it because she canāt provide for it, but she wonāt hear a word I have to say on the matter. I also feel like Iām mourning the loss of my best friend. My husband (35M) and I are DINKs for life and have zero interest in helping anyone raise a kid, even my best friend. Anyway, thatās why Iām drinking tonight and venting to you, the one community who might understand what Iām feeling right now.
This is brutal. She is still her friend though and Jane hasnāt violated any part of their friendship?
No one is telling her to and there isnāt even a child an existence yet. To be like āIām calling this off because whenever you do have the child, Iām worried you might not listen to the boundary Iām putting down right now and might potentially ask me for help. Friendship over āš¾ā
Is just a bit soon right?
Between 10 & 25% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage. There is no child here.
As long as this woman is being a good friend to her and she hasnāt violated any boundaries at this time, I donāt see why the friendship needs to end.
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I donāt think itās mean, I think itās premature. We choose who we interact with in this life and the experiences we want to have.
She can always distance herself and cut her off (while saving herself from pain) as soon as something seems like it would actually happen.
At this time, Jane can still give the baby up for adoption or figure it out on her own without attempting to cross her friendās boundaries.