My good friend announced she and her husband are going to start trying for a baby next month. Ever since then she keeps bringing up how scared she is that she'll lose her identity, no longer have a social life etc

She knows I'm childfree and while I try to reassure her that she'll find a way to balance being a parent with the rest of her life the real part of me is like yeah...that probably will happen?? and you want me to feel bad that you're making a choice to irrevocably change your life in a way you don't want it to change??

then she brings up her husband is really worried about how this will affect his mental health as he needs no less than 9 hours a night of sleep to be healthy. In my mind I'm like well...that's not gonna happen???

for me all the above reasons ( and more) made me wanna be childfree but she's brainwashed lol by the I've always seen myself as a mom rhetoric that she seems in denial about what this would mean??

I know it's petty and mean but I know can be unfiltered in this space.

ETA: I forgot to say she recently spent a week babysitting her niece and nephew who are under the age of 5 while their parents were on vacay and when I asked how it was, she said they were so cute but she was relieved to get away from them...hello...if that isn't a sign??

I like having kids around and often offer to babysit but I am OVER IT after about 6 hours and feel so relieved to return them. For me that's a clear indication of how I prefer my life to be...