So my parents get upset with me sometimes because I won't acknowledge or pay attention to their grandkids. My niece (12) is rude to me but my mom insists I buy things for her since I'm her Aunt. I told her I'm not obligated to and she has parents that can do that for her. She will bring up my age and always point out I'm an adult and that I should whenever it comes to her or her other grandkids. My mom said my niece doesnt want to come over to their place anymore when I was visiting because of me mind you she has been coming over everyday to their place for years even though I dont live with my parents anymore.

This manipulative child told them I'm mean to her because I won't acknowledge her or buy her stuff. I have nieces, nephews around my age even one that's 30 (way older than me) because there is an age gap between my siblings and I. ) she was horrible to me and set me up to be cyberbullied and she even tried going after my ex partner but failed. I stood up to her and I'm still the bad person.

I have another niece that's 23 that was a teen mom,  my parents demand I help with her kid even though she treated me like crap because I was overweight and laughed with her ex about it. He was the one that got her pregnant boom karma. However, all of a sudden the childfree person that was always treated poorly by you in the past is now obligated to help you just because you have a kid? 'I told my parents why can't you help them?' I have one nephew that is 21  the girl he got with and got pregnant has bad issues; all of a sudden my parents tell me about it and ask if I would take care of him and his kid? This was the same nephew that called me weird for being introverted and even threw things at me and got upset I defended myself. He was not a child when he did this. He was 17. Like no he chose that it has nothing to do with me. My parents said I'm evil and malicious and they pity me because I won't interact with my nieces and nephews whenever I come to visit them . I am a distant introverted person and I keep to myself this does not mean I am a mean person I just dont talk much and cater towards kids that aren't mine.

My parents said things aren't working out for me because I'm not trying to work things out with my nieces and nephews. My parents even told me that my siblings were talking about me and said my attitude is bad. I feel like they say this because I wont deal with their kids . It mostly sterns from that because why is this so out of the blue. This is just unfair to me? These are not my kids and I'm childfree why should I be obligated to buy my nieces and nephews anything or pay a lot of attention to them? Why do parents feel like their grandchildren/kids have to be the center of everyone else's eyes especially to Aunt's and uncles? It is not written anywhere we have to help our siblings with their kids. 

I'm childfree for many reasons but this is one of them. Why would I have a kid just so you can forget about me? How come when a grandkid is there parents forget their kids exist. If I had a kid and when they became an adult and gave me a grandkid I'd never consider them too old.  It's hurtful and unfair and disgusting some parents think their kids are expired by 18 and then when they get a grandkid boom you don't matter anymore. I am an adult before anyone but even when I was a minor child my parents still tried to insist I do things for my nieces and nephews. I am not their parents and I'm tired of explaining this to them over and over.

My parents did support me over the years and weren't super terrible parents but whenever it comes to my nieces and nephews they act this way towards me. I still care about my parents because they did feed me and put me through school but I'm over the dehumanizing me when it comes to their grandkids. I learned to deal with them from a distance.

Even when my parents call me to check up on me my niece will interrupt the call and tell me 'you're always bothering me leave me aloneeee i hope you get bad karma off yourself!!!" she will giggle when she says theae evil things😑 I legit told her I was on the phone with my dad or mom not her. I barely answer the phone anymore or I hang up when they call me because I don't want to hear that demon say evil things like that to me when I'm on the phone with somebody else. My dad apologized to me and said what he said was wrong and told me I'm not always the bad guy. However, my mom hasn't yet so I don't reach out to her. I'm so happy I don't live with my parents anymore.

TDLR; Parents think the world revolve around their grandchildren and think I'm obligated to buy them things and pay attention to them even if they are nasty to me. However, I will not give in even if I don't live with them anymore.