Updated and restickied - because you guys keep falling for OBVIOUS scammers.

Please be aware that there is little to nothing that the mod team or Reddit can do if you fall victim to a blackmailer or scammer that you’ve met on this subreddit. The onus is on you to be smart and safe with what you share with internet strangers and the interactions that you have with them.

With an increasing uptick in spammers and scammers post-pandemic, try to keep these tips in mind as you navigate this and any subreddit.

This post is mainly aimed at heterosexual, penis-having, men who are interested in having sex with women. 100% of the scams that happen, happen to these folks, and all advice below will be phrased with that in mind while being universally applicable. The broad strokes generalizations are also aimed at that first group.

Reality Check for all you M4F seekers.

• 100% of women whos post using language that is overly sexual, uninhibited, “anything goes” are fake. Real women who post here aren’t these big-tit, anal/cnc/BDSM loving, discretion having, ONS seeking, not-picky about age or looks or experience, 18-25 year olds, who will fuck you in exchange for smoking your weed.

• This person DOES NOT EXIST. No matter what Tiktok, porn, and OF subs tell you, no matter what other guys claim - this is pure male fantasy that only exist to exploit your vulnerabilities..

• I know people are going to chime in about me making blanket statements and slut-shaming, but take it from someone who knows sexually empowered and awesome women who proudly claim their slutiness - this is not how they seek out partners or present themselves, this isn’t how they show interest or escalate an interaction.

• Breaking News: If it’s too good to be true - IT IS IN FACT, FAKE.

With that said - some good rules to follow:

**1. Rarely, if ever, do real people give you their personal contact or info or whatever, if they don't know what you looking like or anything.

Everyone is so quick to jump off Reddit and into SC or someplace else where where their contacts and info is all public, in order to chat to people. Why?

Does it really make sense that a real person is ok with just sending you pictures and chatting somewhere else when they haven't seen what you look like or have any info about you, in the place they've made the post? We all do throwaway accounts on Reddit for the sake or privacy and then immediately throw that out the window the second there's a response.

Be more selective with who you let into your personal life. Do not share anything connected to your actual friends and family immediately - that includes SC and other social profiles.

2. Only send intimate pictures to people you’ve verified as real.

• I’m not going to tell you to not send your nudes to someone on the internet (with their consent of course) but if it’s not an image you want your whole family to see, then please be pickier about who you send it to.

• DO NOT send it to someone you’ve connected with for 5 minutes. Even if they seem “chill” or send one first or whatever. At best they’re mildly intrigued by what your genitals look like, at worst they’ve already started combing your network to find your grandmother's pastor to send your dick to.

• Nudes don’t make or break a connection - if it does, trust me, not worth it.

3. Do not tell random strangers all of your personal details - especially when they’re so easily findable.

• Going back to the inter-connectivity thing I mentioned; everyone seems to use the same username password profile pic across every single channel they’re on. Sure, single-sign-on makes it convenient to login without having to remember anything - but it makes it infinitely easier for scammers to find and connect the dots on your life.

• The hope/expectation of hookups also means that you nutters are telling people where you live and work and where you go for fun and what your friends do and all of that so easily. Save that for the in-person first date.

• There's no reason to share your IG/Twitter/Facebook or other social content with a stranger. Doesn't matter if they've shared theirs - you do not owe them a view into their personal life. And someone scamming you doesn't care if you see theirs - because it's not real, and it's usually just thirst trap BS anyways.

4. Use common sense.

• Again, random 21-year-old women aren’t suddenly so horny and edging themselves and craving dick pics and BDSM that they make a post on Reddit and are eager to send you hot pictures of themselves and be “discreet” and snap with you and get to know you so you can meet up and smoke and fuck. And yet - SO MANY OF YOU think that this is a real interaction.

• Normal people who are interested in hookups or dates or anything don’t post or talk like that. The sexual open-mindedness or whatever of people now does not mean that sex is now on-demand and accessible with one-click as long as you pay the ticket price of your dick pic.

• Instant gratification, entitlement, and overconfidence is getting you all into trouble. Scammers are smarter than you and have all sorts of tactics to “verify” themselves or whatever. If it’s not in person in a public place where they’re as invested in safety and connection as you are - then it’s not real. Sorry, not sorry. Easy sex on the internet is an illusion 99% of the time.

5. Stop sending people your dick pics.

• Yes, I'm specifically calling out penis-having people right now, and more so - heterosexual penis-having people. Because it’s you all that message me all “I’m being blackmailed and don’t know what to do!” And really no one else.

• Your penis - no matter its size, curvature, or general disposition - is not magical. Very rarely, if ever, does seeing it influence a woman’s desire to have sex with you, especially when they don't know you. Sending a picture of it does not put you ahead in any line. Plus, most of the time, you don’t even ask the recipient if they want to see your penis - you just do it.

• If it’s about the power trip of someone seeing your genitals - then ask yourself if you would feel powerful if your mom, boss, or postal worker saw your penis. If the answer is no - don’t send it to anyone.

• Use your face if you have to, use your personality and words even more so. If you think your cock is the most interesting thing about you or the thing that gets you whatever it is you’re looking for, that should tell you everything about the state you find yourself in.

If you do find yourself in the unfortunate circumstance of being blackmailed - here's what you can do.

• Immediately cease contact with the scammer. Just outright block them.
• Do not negotiate or interact with them further.
• DO NOT pay them anything.
• Collect evidence of all interactions. Take screenshots and save texts.
• Change your passwords and privacy settings in your accounts.
• Report them to the police.

You are simply not smarter than scammers. And there is no "Scamming them back" despite what YouTube channels tell you. They don't have time to waste on someone who won't engage them, there is weaker prey out there. So just cut it off and be smart next time.

Please PM mods if you somehow still get scammed.