As the title says I'm looking for a relationship. I'd ideally prefer this to be a long term relationship. That being said, I'm also open to casual as well if you're looking to explore kink (even if you have no experience with it) or are looking for a consistent partner and connection that has that intimacy / affection. Please note though, I am only looking for people in (or around) Chicago, I am not looking for anything online in this reguard, unless you're moving here. Still with me? Ok here's who I am:

Overall a pretty kind and caring individual. I'm very relaxed when it comes to most things, handle my emotions well, though tend to not always show them on my face, and I can be somewhat a stoic reserved type, but with a bit of a goof thrown in. Though that reservedness goes away with my friends, and even more so with a partner. When I find the right partner I'm very open, communicative, and supportive. I'm very affectionate, I do my best to make my partner laugh, and generally just enjoy spending time together, even if it's in silence, reading. All I ask is for and really want is genuine reciprocation.

On the less personal/emotional side, my interests are more where that nerdiness the title hinted at comes into play. I love reading, fantasy and science fiction specifically. If I don't have a book in hand I generally have one in ear that I'm listening to. Besides reading I enjoy board and video games, swimming, anime, dnd, cooking and baking, a good cocktails, trying new places, and tea (boba too!), to name a few. I may or may not have a tea addiction...

As for physically I'm 31, tall, pale, moderately attractive, with long dark blonde hair (though I'm considering donating it and don't mind keeping or cutting it for a LT partner), and a well kept ginger beard. I'm happy to verify if we start chatting.

Now for the kinky stuff, first let me say you don't have to be that kinky or experienced. I prefer it, but honestly as long as you're open to trying some new things we're all good. That said, kink wise I enjoy quite a lot. I'm a fairly experienced switch leaning Dom. Most of my experience is as a dom and I'm more than happy to only play a dom if you're not into switching. I'm open to only being a sub as well but I basically have no experience as a sub, so soley being one might not be for me. Reguardless of what role you prefer (or think you'd prefer) though, know I'm quite open and don't judge. I enjoy trying new things, and already like quite a bit so if you are into something specific message me. Chances are I already like it or am willing to participate in it for you. That being said I do have my limits. We can talk more about specifics if we start chatting.

Alright I think that's it for now. If I sound like someone you'd like to get to know give me a shout!