I'm starting to lose my sanity. I'm in group chats, long text message threads, on social media, etc. I have a ton of passive communication with a ton of people every day. But I'm so sick of friendships and relationships and (dare I say) romantic/sexual stimulation coming from a fucking phone screen.

We're getting so caught up in staring at our phones for 6 hours a day and completely used to having the power to connect with anyone anywhere in the world at any time with a couple button presses to a point where we've actually forgotten to make real effort to spend time in person engaging with real humans.

We've become completely apathetic to our actual human needs like in person interaction, companionship, affection, etc., and as a single person who lives alone and longs for greater social connectedness and consciencness, this is really starting to have an effect on my mental and emotional well being.

We're forgoing actual IRL friendships so watch fucking tiktok videos. Its so pathetic.

On days when my mental health is not fantastic, I notice my screen time it up at like 6-7 hours. No wonder. And then on the days where I get out an experience the world and I feel great my screen time is down to like 1 hour. The math checks out!

I'm not going to lie. I'm human starved. Touch starved. Intellectual conversation starved. Fun starved. Affection starved. Comraderie starved. Friendship starved. Socially starved.

And yet, I can't find people to commit to doing anything in person. Going on a ride, going to the lake, going to a show, going to a jazz club, playing bar trivia, kayaking, longboarding, watching a movie, going bowling, going to a bar, playing pool, having a real conversation, WHATEVER.

Don't get me wrong though. This rant makes it sound like I'm some kind of social hermit or introvert. I'm very much not. I'm insanely social, have a demanding public-facing job where I interact with tons of people. I'm a social organizer and inviter and I'm constantly surrounding myself with people. I'm one of those people that my friends say "just seems to know everybody everywhere." And maybe that's true. And maybe I'm just to comfortable.

But the bottom line is that no matter how much effort I put in, I'm not getting that same energy back in return. I just feel lonely. Maybe it's rational, maybe it's not. But the vibe is off.

I'm looking for a human female. One that is willing to MEET UP and do THINGS. Activities. Distractions that keep us away from our phone screens and give us that euphoric feeling like its 2005 again. Together. Is this so hard?

Someone who can challenge me, excite me, come up with ideas and have fun. But someone will also appreciate me, someone that I can surprise and challenge and comfort. Something that goes two ways. I'm sick of one-way friendships and relationships.

I crave an equal. A non-transactional, genuine, heartfelt friendship where chemistry can develop and potentially turn into more (or not?). Be it friendly, romantic, sexual, none of the above, or all of the above, I'm open to any direction and think labels are often premature or limiting or juvenile. I just want someone who gives me a vibe I can connect with.

Let's drink, laugh, cry, sweat, yell, make out, road trip, cuddle, shower together, ANYTHING. I just want to feel something from another human. Intimacy, affection, excitement, nervousness, arousal, stimulation, all of the things a smart phone doesn't give me.

Am I crazy?

34M, white, single, college educated, gainfully employed, live alone, intelligent, hobbies, friends, ambitions, opinion, sense of humor, liberal, 5'9, dark hair, green eyes, chubby/musculqr/athletic. Night owl, somewhat depressed but very genuine and honest and loyal.

You: 18-50, single, intelligent, nearby, good communication, willing to be spontaneous, ready to meet in person soon and not just going to be a fucking imaginary person inside my phone.

Respond with your age and location or I will ignore entirely. (It's not that hard. You put in some effort and I'll put in some effort.)