To explain, my boyfriend P M(34) went to a party weeks ago, and came back distant, few days later I discovered that he had texted a girl N F(28) related to his childhood bestfriend.

He never talked about it and I had to ask him clarification about it, he changed version each time, saying that he contacted her to clarify things, about admiting that she had a crush ( he told me when I confronted him that he never knew she had a crush on him previously, whereas, when you read the conversation it says otherwise. He then chanhed version and told me he contacted her for things to not be akward, because he forgot what they said, and then went on to change subject and talk about issues regarding our relationship.

Important infos are; this is not the first time, he doesnt mentionned that talking to another woman ( ex in the past), and we are both living together for already 2 years, being together for almost 4 years and planning on having a family together in the very near futur.

Here is the Conversation It has been weeks already but I cant forget about it, theres something sketchy and I feel uneasy with it, I told him it was fine if it was out of ego that he asked her repeatedly about having a crush to which he replied nothing, only repeating it that he contacted her to not be akward, but it seems more than that.

I don't know. Im just not comfortable with him being drunk to the point that he doubts what happens with another woman and then needing to reach out about it and being that sketish and disregarding the whole thing to me and telling me I broke his trust by seeing his texts. He also kept repeating that if he was cheating or were to cheat, why would he let the conversation visible and accessible to me.

Here is the exchange P》 him N》 Her

P: "Hey, I probably should've texted you yesterday, but I wasn't feeling well. 😄 What happened at the end at Bar on Sunday?"😄

N: "Hey, it’s all good, I kind of figured you weren’t feeling well. 😂But you tell me what happened – or are you missing some memories?"😂

P: "I don’t remember getting home; 😂I just remember leaving the bar feeling very... confused as fuck."🤣

N: "You and Guy friend disappeared at the end,😂 but it’s good you got home safely, even if you were confused. But I didn’t do anything wrong, right?"😂

P: "I don’t remember you doing anything wrong, 😁😁but I’m curious about what happened from your perspective."😄😄

N: "Well, it’s hard to say from my perspective.😅 I think you had a lot to drink, which probably influenced things –😄 unless you have more to add from your side."

P: "Did I imagine it, or did you say at some point that you liked me?"😄

N: "Well, we mostly talked about the first time we met."😃

P: "Oh, so you meant back then you liked me?"😄

P: "Or maybe I was just too drunk and misunderstood."😂

N: "Well, you mentioned I was all over you at the time."😂

N: "But you have a girlfriend, who I really like, so I couldn’t even think about something like that."😂

P: "And nothing else happened?😄 Why was I so confused? I must have misunderstood what was going on."😂😂

N: "Nothing could really have happened; you have a girlfriend."😂

N: "This is all a bit strange, but I think we’d both feel bad now if something had happened."😂

P: "Strange, pleasant, confusing, and drunk."😂

N: "Maybe, but also feeling guilty..."😅

Ps: she actually texted me that evening saying the wished I was here and complaining. And I texted him that night, he read my text but didnt replied to any of it, whereas he always does even if late. I rarely text when he is out and dont expect answers eithers the little I do he always answers this is the first time he didnt and read them tho.