Alrighty this is going to take a bit to explain. So I met my guy in the winter and we clicked but didn’t start dating until the summer. Our first date consisted of us going out to eat and then picking up a custom western belt that this gentleman we shall name Kyle. Kyle and his wife seemed so nice and I really enjoyed taking a tour of the shop and seeing all of the leather works. I have been wanting my own custom belt for a long time, but the one I have had that’s about 20 years old and is about to bite the dust so I am in the market for a new one.

This is probably where I should add I have been doing only fans for almost 2 years now. Which it’s no big deal. I used to dance for my dollars and I am way less shy and un comfortable in my bedroom versus a dancing girl hall. My boyfriend has known about that since day one and has never had a problem with it so that’s not the issue either.

I do have a few different forms of social media, Reddit and TikTok for advertisement and to have a better idea of positions photo types etc. My Instagram is for family and only a small group of people that if I ran into them at the store I would talk to them. I don’t do Facebook next-door or any apps that cater to my location due to I already have to see enough dumb assery in these parts I don’t need to be seeing more to what I have to see because I’m just too damn blunt lol.

Which brings us to Snapchat. The root of all evil. I had used it with only the audience a family and maybe five close friends, because I was using it to share pictures and memories of my kid and I. The way the world is and from what I have seen as a mom I chose to remove my child’s photos and videos we made off of my Snapchat. Even though I can control the audience of who sees those memories and moments, I just decided to take him off because he’s almost a teenager and if he gets posted I want him to consent to being posted and not just because mom wanted to. So I completely scrubbed it of family and opened it up for folks to advertise my only fans.

Before I changed my Snapchat, I had noticed I had a friends request from the man that does my boyfriends family’s leather works. I’m not really big on adding a married folk on my Snapchat unless their spouse is on my Snapchat, so it sat there for weeks without me responding. Fast forward to Wednesday I was clearing out request and I noticed his name and said oh shit that’s the Leatherman, I am finally going to go ahead and draw up my design and see how much he would charge me to build it and paint it. I accept the friend request late at night, but didn’t message him. Thursday while I’m having a really shitty day at work and just trying to keep the shit show rolling I get a Snapchat from Kyle which are posted below. Sorry about the quality, I didn’t want to screenshot and alert him to me being uncomfortable because I wanted to see if he would say anything else out of line, So I had one of my friends take pictures of my phone as I went. As you can see it I kept it professional, But then he asked me why they call me timeshare? And I was really confused. Like really confused because I thought it was just because he’s in his 60s and he isn’t exactly technology savvy he couldn’t figure out how to spell my screen name. But then asked to “share time” with me. This is the point I would like to remind you; Kyle is best friends with my boyfriends stepdad, they do tons of leather work all over the east side of my state, Cherry on the cake is my boyfriend dated at Kyle’s daughter years ago. (for anyone wandering no I don’t care or have jealousy bc they dated YEARS ago lol. we all have and none of us can change the past be mad over finding some happiness at that point in our lives.)

So yeah it Made me super uncomfortable (which really says a lot but Kyle helped raise my boyfriend, so I think it is kind of shady to try to get in bed with a woman belonging to the man that you helped raise when he didn’t have much of a father figure). But also to I don’t appreciate men talking negatively Or just disrespectful, Unless I know it and I’ve seen it for my own eyes. sometime in the last 24 hours or so I wound up having a missed call from Kyle. Kyle has never had my number. I have never given Kyle my number. I have had this number for about three years or so now and none of my social media has my number is not listed. On the third screenshot below you’ll see the exchange.

So I’ve been the woman on both sides of the situation. I’ve gotten the hey girlie texts and I’ve Unfortunately had to send the hey girlie text. I don’t want this woman to think I am training to start shit because I’m with her daughters ex. I don’t want her to think I am just out to start shit. Or I’m upset because I didn’t make a Sale. Or her just not believe any of the paper proof in front of her just because I do only fans, and it is still taboo in a lot of folks eyes and considered immoral. But I worry about Folks catching incurable diseases from partners being unfaithful. Or a shitty case of mental trauma that results in 3 to 5 years of expensive ass therapy.And if he’s trying to get in bed with a technical SW who does gets tested regularly, who does not have a lot of partners, who is actually one of the more conservative folks in that field, what other unsafe partners could he be finding and putting his wife in danger for? I’m leaning more towards gently informing her how I wasn’t comfortable with her husbands way of describing her in those messages and how it’s not proper to go after someone who you don’t know if they’re in a relationship or not. But I would like to also say I don’t just stick my nose in other folks is marriages just pry, and I do a lot of research to make sure that my subscribers don’t have a partner, or I get video with the other parter holding a note card with certain information wrote on it and saying that they give consent to their partner to subscribe to my only fans. I never want another woman to find my work hidden away by their partner and her think I’m just a homewrecker.

Can someone throw me some advice On what they would do if they were in the situation. Thank you so much I appreciate it.