Last week (Thursday November 7th to be exact), my laptop died on me. My wife tells me to use her old MacBook until I can buy a new one, so I do. At the time it was still connected to her Apple ID, so immediately I start seeing text messages. An image comes in from her co-worker, a picture of his neck and trap area with zero context. I immediately notice some small marks that look like bruising around his right upper peck. Why does this matter? My wife likes to bite me in the same area when we have sex.

Later that day, my wife texts me asking me to log out of her Apple account on the laptop. I ask her why and she says it’s because she keeps getting alerts whenever I turn on the computer. By this point she figured out how to log out remotely, so I tell her it’s already been logged out. But now I’m even more suspicious.

I send the pic along (without context) to some close friends. They all react the same, not sure what they’re looking at exactly and maybe there’s a rash, thinking it’s a picture of me. I clarify that the pic is of my wife’s co-worker without mentioning the biting she likes to do and the response is the same: why is he sending pictures of his neck? And all tell me to do the same thing: don’t bring it up until and try to find more “evidence” before making any accusations.

I just happened to be working late that weekend, so by the time I got home she would be asleep. I went through everything on her phone and laptop. The only thing I could find were a phone call that was going on at the time he sent the photo (which would explain the lack of context), and a photo of him in her phone that he took in her car the day before. That Wednesday night she also told me she was too tired to have sex, something I brushed off at the time.

I immediately start creating a story in my head. Wednesday she hooks up with co-worker and bites his neck/trap/pec area. She had sex earlier that day and was sore/tired and/or didn’t want to risk getting caught if things felt a little different down there. He sends her the pic of his neck while they’re on the phone talking about the day before.

I was planning on bringing it up Monday but my son was home due to Veterans Day so I didn’t want to start anything while he was there. I would also prefer to do it in person so she doesn’t have time to create her own story if my theory is true. Would rather gauge her reaction IRL. But it’s been eating away at me all weekend and I don’t know how much longer I can wait without blowing up. I did some more snooping today and haven’t found anything else that seems suspicious. She’s either really good at hiding stuff, new and bad at it, or…she’s not doing anything and I’m just overreacting.

What do you think?

Update November 14th:

I can’t purchase a VAR until next week so until then all I can do is monitor her texts and social media. I haven’t found a single thing since that picture was sent a week ago, so either she knows I saw it and is covering her tracks or I’ve made a mountain out of a mole hill. As I stated in another post, no one I showed the picture to saw a bite mark until I mentioned it after the fact so this could be in my head (I hope it is). Unless I find something between now and when I get the device, I won’t be updating this post further.