My fiancé (27) and I (26) have known each other for 8 years and have been in a committed relationship for 3. We continuously joked about how we do everything married couples do - joint finances, bought a house, bought a dog, supported each other in every way. Or at least I thought.

I was recently diagnosed with an extremely rare skull based brain tumor that is so rare there is no standard of treatment. It has been a wild journey of self healing and coming to terms with my diagnosis. My fiancé had been by my side the entire time supporting me, or so I thought. For example, I was scared to begin therapy to help with coping and so he scheduled marriage counseling so we could do this together. Because I’m his words “we are a team, in sickness and in health”. He even suggested I quit my job and focus on healing while he would take over all our finances and would support me through this difficult time.

This Monday we went under contract for a second house and while I was using his iPad I noticed some suspicious messages come through. When he got home from work (I currently work from home) we talked excitedly about the new house we just went under contract for. As he went outside to play with our dogs I asked to see his phone..

While he was outside my entire life once again turned upside down. I found multiple text messages to other women he was taking to lunch while in office. But worst of all - I found saved snap chats confirming that he had started a relationship with another woman. I was utterly heart broken, destroyed, and confused. This was the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Who swore I was his soulmate, that he would always be there for me, that we were the future and would face anything and everything together, including my tumor.

When I confronted him he showed no remorse, no empathy, no emotion. Stating clear as day how “dating other women was is way of coping with my tumor”. He went on to say that he had been putting together a “nest egg” for me for IF I ever found out to pay me off with. And that he was planning on never telling me and was going to continue building our financial future together and living a double life.

I am absolutely devastated. Not only has my life recently been turned upside down with my diagnosis but now it has been flipped a full 360 degrees. I do not understand how someone could do this to anyone. Let alone the person they swore to protect for forever and love unconditionally.

And to top it off, he threatened to sue me for defamation if I told anyone. Called the police to try to have me arrested for throwing water in his face. I packed as much as I could so distraught and family who live 1.5 hours away came and picked me and my two dogs up because I was so devastated. He has now requested I come get all my things this weekend which is nearly impossible as everything we have is jointly owned and I don’t have a place of my own yet to move everything into..

Still no apology, remorse, or concern for my well being or my dogs. We were a family and he destroyed us.

I guess you never really know someone.