Hey everyone, I (28M) just had a weird situation pop up, and I honestly don’t know how to process it. Maybe getting it off my chest will help. Names are fake obviously.

A little over a year ago, I was in a serious, three-year relationship with "Megan" (27F). Everything seemed great between us, at least from my perspective. We were talking about moving in together and even had casual talks about marriage someday.

Around that time, I started getting into fitness and introduced Megan to my personal trainer, “Jake” (30M). Jake was a super charismatic guy, and he and Megan hit it off, but I didn’t think much of it—just assumed they had a good trainer-client relationship. After a few months of them working together, Megan started acting more distant. She’d be “busy” after her workouts, not come home until late, and her phone would suddenly always be on do-not-disturb. I’d ask her about it, but she’d blow me off, saying I was being paranoid.

Well, turns out I wasn’t paranoid. One night, Megan left her phone on the counter while she was showering, and it lit up with texts from Jake. Let’s just say they weren’t talking about meal plans or workout routines. I confronted her immediately, and she broke down, admitted she’d been cheating with him for months. She told me she “fell in love” with Jake and that it wasn’t about me—it was just something she couldn’t help. She packed her things and moved in with him within a week.

That was the worst time of my life. It felt like my entire world had been ripped apart. I blocked her on everything and focused on picking up the pieces of my life. Therapy, gym, hanging with friends—I slowly started to move on, even though it left a deep scar.

Then, out of the blue, a few days ago, she reached out to me on a new number. At first, I wasn’t going to reply, but curiosity got the better of me. She started off saying she missed me, that she’s sorry for everything, and that she’s made “a huge mistake.” Apparently, things with Jake went downhill fast. She found out he was cheating on her (oh, the irony), they’ve broken up, and now she’s stuck, lonely, and miserable. She even admitted she’s been thinking about me for months but was too ashamed to reach out sooner.

She said she realizes what she had with me was real and that she “wants to make things right.” She claimed she’s willing to do anything to prove she’s changed and asked if we could meet up to talk.

Here’s the thing, Reddit: Part of me still has some feelings for her, but another part of me is screaming to block her again and never look back. I don’t know if I can ever trust her after what she did, but hearing her sound so broken on the phone stirred something up in me. Maybe it’s pity, maybe it’s nostalgia, or maybe I’m just an idiot.

So here I am, trying to figure out if I should hear her out or tell her to stay in the past where she belongs. What would you guys do?

EDIT: I’ll post an update after we talk. Right I haven’t responded, I wanted a general consensus first.

EDIT 2: Update posted!