It's been a few months since D day and it's been getting better. Our story is a bit different. My fiance group up in a not so great environment which led him to become an escort during college for money to help through college. He was raped when younger so I feel all he has known and what he said what that he valued himself in a sexual way because it was the only thing people wanted him for throughout his life. Fast forward we are in a relationship for 5 years engaged and he has a down moment because he isn't doing well financially like me so he start to feel low and goes out of our ENM Relationship without telling me for almost a year having multiple sexual partners to fill a void. I'm not making up excuses for him but for some reason I don't feel as hurt anymore because I actually see what his life was like. We are in couples therapy now and it's been helping but I'm choosing to stay with him because a part of me understands even though he was wrong for lying