Wife and I have been together for 12 plus years. Over that time we have played around with chastity but more recently I find myself wanting to do it more. It plays jnto several of our fantasies and it's just all around fun. However, my wife feels guilty about it as she assumes that if I wear the cage then that day we need to fool around. I've tried explaining that the point is to just tease (or not even) occasionally and to let her call the shots on when we do end up fooling around. She often just ends up feeling guilty anyways and as a result does not want to do the chastity to avoid feeling that way. Any advice on what I can do to help her get over this thought process ? I really would like to wear it more often and have her also get some joy out of it.

Thanks!