So, I (M30) have been interested in trying chastity for a while now, perhaps purely as an experiment but also because I’m a horny dog and turned on by most kink fetishes.

My GF is 29, have been with her for 7 years and recently bought an apartment together which we have now moved into. She is fairly vanilla but we have experimented very lightly in the past with toys and soft bondage (she likes being in control at times, says she ‘loves to see me squirm’). My sex drive is much higher than hers and I am (at least I think) far more kinky than her, although I did convince her to attend a swingers club with me while on vacation which she loved despite not partaking in any non-monogamous activity.

I have become interested in chastity after I saw her domme side on the same holiday: while drinking at a bar she randomly asked me “would you want to wear my knickers?” to which I nearly spit out my drink as she has never suggested it before. I replied “WHAT?!” whilst laughing and she also laughed too. No more was said about it and I had put it down to just goofy drunk talk. A few days later she expressed her desire to be a boss wife and have a husband who worshipped her - I nearly exploded in my pants at the thought.

After the holiday we returned to our normal vanilla routine. Sex 1-2 times a week and would get a little naughty while drinking by watching porn and making ‘jokes’ about the swingers club we attended on holiday. I couldn’t stop thinking about her being a domme wife and so a fortnight ago I decided to abstain from orgasm for one week. I told her I was doing this as I felt I was spending too much time masturbating (twice a day). She was curious whether I’d last the week but paid no heed otherwise. That was until I began pampering her so much that she remarked how she liked how being deprived of cumming made me more attentive to her - did all the cooking, cleaning, tidying etc and made a huge effort to make her life easier that week. I went down on her lots. She loved feeling pampered. Anyway, I completed the week successfully, during which emphasised how I wanted her to give me a release (not myself). On completion might, she gave me a long, teasy handjob and I exploded everywhere. Again she said how much she loved seeing me worked up.

I told her I was willing to do another no organs week again at some point but that I was giving myself a break after being pent up for a week - needless to say I returned to furious masturbation for a week. On Sunday night she told me she was placing me on another orgasm ban ‘as I did say I would try it again’. Reluctantly agreed and am on day 2 and incredibly horny. I haven’t yet repeated the heights of pampering I did during my first spell but I have certainly been more attentive and hornily desperate. I have however annoyed her with my tone earlier and she said she would make it two weeks if I’m not careful.

She doesn’t know about chastity, but I am putting the feelers out with this “honour chastity” experiment to see whether she might be receptive to caging me. The teasing however hasn’t been to the level I need in order to keep me in a desperate state of submission but I am letting this initial journey unfold before potentially broaching the subject.

So, in short, so far so good but I would appreciate any advice to really liberate her domme side and enjoy controlling my cock.