I consider myself very liberal and openminded. I'm a cis-female, but I believe that transgender individuals exist, and that they can't control that they were born the wrong sex. However, I don't believe that gender-fluid exists.

I only heard of this somewhat recently when a girl was telling me that she's always identified as female, but overtime, she's realized that her definition of female was different from most girls', and she was asking to be referred to as "they/them" pronouns.

As a feminist, I found this offensive. If you identify as female, who gets to decide what makes you a female or not? Just because you don't want to shave your legs, wear makeup, buy shoes or do other traditional "feminine" things, doesn't make you not a female. And the same goes for men.

I've always been very strongly against traditional gender roles.

You're a girl, but you want to cut your hair short and drive a truck? Awesome! You're still a girl. Having "masculine" qualities doesn't make you not a girl.

You're a guy, but you want to wear makeup or wear a dress? Also awesome! And it also doesn't make you not a guy.

Therefore, I feel that people claiming to be gender-fluid are just perpetuating these stereotypes. I wish these gender-fluid people would just own it. "I'm a girl, but I'm not girly. So what?" instead of trying to say that because they don't identify with traditionally female qualities, they must not be female.

Feel free to tell me why I'm wrong.

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