The tldr of this post is: I’ve been doing the whole tinder thing recently but it’s just tough when you’re two dates in and desperately trying to evaluate if they’d be down for gentle domming the fuck out of you, meanwhile they’re making small talk about vacation plans.

which is of course to say, Catholic school didn’t work and I’m a complete degenerate and my idea of romance is a guy telling me that he’s in charge now. (or like, maybe Catholic school did work?).

I’m like head over heels into the daddy thing, obviously, less into outright ageplay, but mostly I want to be coddled to a point but with discipline to back it up. my eternal problem (not to get existential?) is that I can only follow rules if I respect the person giving them, and I only respect people if i think they respect me, so you can see how the world of dom/sub dating can be treacherous. I used to self identify as a brat, but actually if I’m into you I’ll fall onto my knees at any given prompting. basically I now self identify as embarrassingly submissive at all times, with the right person.

I’m so aware that was way too much preamble, so I’ll try really hard to keep this brief from now on: looks wise I’m 5’6”, brunette, average build, and a couple of shitty tattoos, and I’m simultaneously recovering from a sunburn that occurred months ago as well as covered in freckles because I’ve actually been doing outdoor activities now it’s not insanely cold, and yet still obnoxiously pale. Something something Irish genetics, any chance of getting a tan is immediately ruled out by virtue of being from the north coast. I’ve also got a healing dog bite on my left hand that may or may not be going septic (it’s not. probably), I’m continuously wearing sparkly nail polish against all odds, and I’m consistently wearing oversized Flyers merch

personality wise, I ramble way too much (as is obvious), did a liberal arts undergrad and carry that energy with me always, and my current hyper fixation is modernist architecture (others include American literature and 1960s French cinema).

kink wise, my main sexual proclivity boils down to: I want to be told what to do. gently. but also with authority. I’m actually pretty vanilla in terms of like, I don’t want to be hurt, I don’t want to be degraded, etc, but I also don’t have fun during sex unless the other person is fully in charge and I’m not allowed to make decisions. take from that what you will?

to round this up, I’m open to just talking on iMessage/discord/whatever for now, potentially with the end goal of making this a real life thing. anywhere in the world is honestly fine, but midwest/east coast US is preferable. also so happy to swap pictures to see if there’s attraction there, obviously.

anyway, now the reality of posting this is settling in and the crippling embarrassment is descending, I’ll finish this on - if this has (somehow) been any way appealing, message me? I’m really good at begging and I’ll make it worth your while, I promise.