Hi Reddit,

I'm here looking for a kink-friendly type in the South West UK area, although I am more than willing to travel for the right person.

Ideally, I want someone who is 30-45, fits under my arm when we're walking, is on the curvier side, knows what they want and asks for it, a little spoon who enjoys “funishments” and knows when to misbehave to get them. Tattooed, alt, nerdy types - to the front please!

I'm an affectionate gentle-dom and caregiver type, complete cuddle-slut, definitely a giver more than a receiver. I love to help partners explore and indulge their kinks, it gives me a chance to discover new ones for myself! My kinks (so far...): Giving oral & anal Spanking/paddling Post session aftercare Naked spooning & cuddling Bondage/tying/restraining Struggle-play/wrestling Choking/breath-play Outdoor/sneaky public Phone/text roleplay Mutual masturbation Primal play/pinning Breast & nipple play Nudity & being flashed in public

I'm divorced, single, no kids, STI free (willing to test again before meeting), healthy, a bit neuro-spicy (AuDHD), I've never used illegal drugs and have only ever had unprotected sex with long term partners.

I like to learn about someone, their passions, interests, hobbies, turn ons, kinks etc. because I think it helps when enjoying the more physical/sexual side of things. I'm happy to chat with anyone and will always respond. Any meeting or socializing will likely look like a date. Drinks, coffee, dinner, movies, arcade games, ice cream on the beach… I like taking care of people so I'll likely cook something delicious for you if you end up at mine!

In my day-to-day life, I'm a qualified librarian and former college lecturer, a huge movie nerd and videogamer. I enjoy cooking, hiking and walking the beautiful South Coast, especially around Hengistbury Head and the New Forest, going to the cinema and live music shows and reading a lot. I want to get into camping, wild swimming and rock climbing.

I'm happiest when I'm naked and spend the majority of my time at home in the nude. This coming summer I want to get out to Studland (my local-ish nudist beach) and enjoy a little wild swimming and sunshine! Hopefully, by then my dadbod will a little more toned.

Physically, I'm 178cm and 100kg, broad and solid in build. I've been told I have a nice ass and good legs (!), so I just need to work on my middle, which is a little thick due to my love of food and hatred of sit-ups…