hi! I'm here because I'm still very much eager to start a new chapter with someone out there, hopefully even more amazing, to enjoy a natural, free flowing, D/s based dynamic with! I ask though that if you're reaching out, please, reach out because you feel sure that you're in a right enough headspace and have the time to pursue something. I am completely fine if someone has things to work through that she would like help with, but it's the being lied to or deceived on getting to know someone, and then suffer the heartbreak of the time being a farce which sucks. I'm an adult when it comes to this, so please respect my time and I'll respect yours with 110% effort in this dynamic!

Also in the interest of being transparent up front, before you read on, I'd like to establish attraction pretty quickly (so I'd like if you provided a picture in an initial message if you find me interesting enough to respond to and I will respond with the same of course) as I understand fully that a dynamic such as cgl/bdsm needs physical attraction almost above all else to a degree to embrace in order to succeed. If that's there, I'd love to message a little bit before eventually moving to something we can voice chat with!

If you're still here, let me share a bit about myself!

I am a 6'1 hispanic guy and I consider myself to be a soft dom! While I am someone that loves taking the lead and am comfortable in my knowledge to handle the needs of two people (and I can have a bit of a stern/rough dom streak), I am also someone that happily communicates often what I’d like to do and see if you’re okay with it (as I don’t want to surprise anyone and I believe a dynamic requires good communication anyways) for your comfort. You’ll also learn that I love talking and I am someone that would love to have video and voice calls with someone (this is important to me, especially if there’s an initial distance, as I need to see something visually to feel confident about a potential relationship to feel more emotionally invested), so someone who wants this is a plus.

I am into (sfw):

• Coloring and little activities such as tea parties, getting to know stuffies, reading bedtime stories and if you’re in school, I would love to do homework/study for your schoolwork together. I love learning about your life and being a central part of it where I can help you grow positively means everything to me.
• Video games (I don’t play many currently, but I’d love to find something new to play with together (or if you’ve played it before and its new to me)
• And a lot more (both in the context of cgl and vanilla things, come find out!)

I am into (kink wise):

• Light degradation and humiliation (both ways, certainly a few things that get me going when it’s said to me as well as I’m very comfortable in my own skin, happy to elaborate if we get there!
• Wordplay (especially with ageplay), there is something exciting for me with visualizing an image when it comes to being intimate and amplifying it as much as possible.
• TPE and d/s dynamics in general as part of every day life in the relationship. I believe that a dynamic shouldn’t have an on/off button, and that it should be an ongoing continuous thing, akin to daily routine and I want someone who wants to enjoy that as well with me.
• Lots more!

And lastly, I am looking for:

• A long term relationship first and foremost with someone in person. While I am open to talking to someone not from NYC, I am looking for someone open to relocation. I have the ability to provide a lovely place to live in long term and I’d like to share that with someone.
• A biological family. It would mean the world to me to be a father, so I’d love to be able to have someone I can see myself with long term enough to have a family together one day.
• Someone into video/voice calls (should there be distance initially)! I have met far too many people who seem to refuse this, almost as if people are hiding something. I believe it's really important to be able to see each other, do things together activity wise that allows sound and visual cues as a thing (whether sfw or not), and after realizing how much happier this makes me after experiencing it so frequently recently, I would like this to continue with the next person I get to know.
• Someone younger than me (this is important to me). I have nothing against anyone older, but with most of my past relationships having me be the younger, I’d like to experience the other side of things. I am also into age gaps, so don't hesitate to reach out as long as you are younger.
• Someone talkative! I love energy, and while I have some parts of the day I may be a little slow to respond sometimes, I am generally a pretty fast reply and will be happy to take up most of your day (but can understand if you have things you have to do!).

If you think we’d click, I’d love to hear from you! Share a bit about yourself (or what you liked about anything I wrote or have written before), and I’d love to go from there! Hoping to hear from someone soon!