On this day, NYC is beautifully misty & a melanchol(il)y overcast & cool Fall day. 

If neurodivergent manifested as a life, it would be mine. Imagine a poor mixed kid with asthma who was raised by a great grandmother as a kid to a teenage parent. Underachieving in school, yet showing signs of high intellectual ability. Failing out of Stuyvesant HS (this reference might be lost if you didn’t grow up in NYC), yet still managing to spend a few years in the 9-5 working world, followed by years of not. 

Went to QC at 29, wanted to study political science and clinical psychology but then had my eyes opened to what politics truly are. Ended up overachieving academically, studying Media Studies, seriously taking to the liberal arts curriculum and shifting into a scientist (Behavioural Neuroscience)

After that, trying to be a teacher, failing tragically, cancer, Fulbright, China, Michelle Obama,, little help from my friends, Taiwan, learning Chinese, Philippines, learning about attachment styles, actually becoming a teacher, almost going to prison, back to the US and tending to a 102 year old great grandma. 

Just an outline to a really ridiculous life that defies typical definition. I feel what’s sustained me through it has been resilience, high intellectual ability paired with a growth mindset, empathy, having strong legs, and being endowed (after all, if I was just intelligent in bed it would be fun, but without good tools to work with …)

I just sneezed.

As much as I have a story to share, I enjoy listening to the story of others. Since being a yoot, I’ve understood that I can’t change lives, but can be a catalyst for a life to change and I have always wanted to see lives change for the better. It has led me to assuming the qualities of a Daddy Dom (Parent/Caregiver, Mentor, Protector, Disciplinarian, Kind, Playful Patient, Nurturing, Encouraging).

With most things existing on a continuum, I exist closer to the BD than the SM side of the spectrum. I’m also a feminist and don’t believe I’m intrinsically better or want to dominate someone based one me, male; they, female. I am open to a broad range of kinks and kink negotiation. 

I am an introvert, but not a shut in. I go out to movies weekly, wrestling shows (AEW/HOG) every once in a while, 80s nights and enjoy just walking around my hometown (Flushing, a Chinatown) finding places to eat and people to chat with in Mandarin. I am huge into mutual respect, and have a strong desire to take care of the underdogs/underclass in life. 

I’m best for those who live nearby or in NYC, live an alternative lifestyle or care to exist away from the 9-5 worth aesthetic for a wee bit. Who understands the value of their time and wishes to spend it with quality people having quality experiences. While I know this post isn’t very sexual, please trust I put the same quality into responsible hedonism and play as I put into responsible hedonism and sexuality. 

Maybe there’s something different about you and your existence even if you try to normalize it in your head. Maybe you’ve had to overcome rough experiences and it’s somehow a part of your journey of achieving. Maybe it’s left you being a bit of a late bloomer or someone who desires meeting someone emotionally and intellectually / emotionally mature enough to  to express the “non typical” aspects of yourself while still being treated as a human… Well, then 

“Hello, little one.”

Please, when writing, feel free to overshare. Express you’re you, where you are in life and please use the word “Bllue” meaningfully in some way shape or form. 

Can’t wait to hear from you.