I'll be honest, I crave attention. But not any attention, I want you to actually be awe-struck by me. But, for us to get there, you do have to be enticed a little, I presume.

Hah I actually don't know how to catch your attention. I'm trying to think of my good qualities. I'm very bubbly, but can get very serious also. I'm a romantic. I believe a big part of love is consideration. Genuine consideration. Hmm, I love to listen to music at the highest possibly (safe) level. I listen to a lil of everything, main theme is heartfelt lyrics hehe. So of course Hozier, Florence and the Machine, Evanescence, Aurora, and Paramore are in the mix. (Open to recommendations!) I love adventures, but I wouldn't say I'm spontaneous..maybe conditional spontaneity? I love books and poetry that make me feel like I'm not the only one experiencing hair-pulling-gut-wrenching emotions. I'm very sentimental. Emotional. I love hard. My main love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time. I love body art and modifications. I have one tattoo and planning on getting more 😊 They have meaning and are rooted in cultural expression. Designing them myself☺️

Now, on to the not so great stuff 😬. I struggle with depression and anxiety. You can barely see it in my day to day life because I laugh and joke and can be life of the party. But it's catching up to me and I find it hard to act happy when I'm not. I am seeing a therapist and he has suggested I may have BPD but it is not concluded. I struggle with my self image a bit, do have mild OCD, and find it hard to regulate my emotions sometimes. Oh, we're also working on a theory that ADHD might be part of my mix.

After putting my cards on the table, I may not seem so suitable. But! I can assure you, I'm pretty great. I am caring, and I am kind and I try to be my best. Despite my crazy low self-esteem, I am beautiful. I have big poofy healthy hair, darkskin, 5'3 and a little curvy. Sexy, if I do say so myself. You know how they say "the crazy must match the hotness"? Yeah, my sexy exceeds my crazy. Hmm, maybe they may be head to head, I am pretty crazy ;). I will love you like my life depends on it. The only condition is you do the same. Let us honour each other.

What am I looking for? A real gentle giant. I believe my husband really towers over me (yes, if we click you will be stuck with me). I do have an idea of how my husband (you) will look like so I understand if you also have a vision on how your partner is. I actually prefer men who keep to themselves, and who has a soft spot only for me(I know this is to be established as we get to know each other). Intelligent, monogamous, hygienic, wise. Well established, assertive, takes care of himself. I do have a preference for strong men with long hair, and tattoos (especially cultural). A gentleman, who also has a dark side but is not scared of it. "Don't you ever tame your demons, but always keep them on a leash." You know, a man in control of himself. A provider, who is willing to care and provide for our family.

I need to be taken care of. I may lean on you heavily because of my mental health, I would really appreciate compassion and support. I may have bad days where I wouldn't want to leave the house, let alone my room, so patience is quite necessary.

A couple of need-to-knows: I am into a lot of non-conventional kinks, but I am not into pain, humiliation/degradation, piss or ass play. I love pets and would like some. I am open to having kids. There is no age limit on my post, just please be mature.

I put my all in this😭 I'm just about done looking for genuine connection. It feels like if it were meant to be, it would have been by now, right? Sigh, cheers to one more try, yeah? Also add a random fruit emoji when you text so I'm assured you've read through this.

You can laugh at my post, I also feel a lil silly spilling this on reddit only for the love of my life to never see it😅 feels naive, but here's hoping, right? Wish me luck, friends.

Oh! I live in East Africa at the moment, but might move to USA in the spring. Open to long distance of course, but open to relocation too.

Thank you for reading this far! Very long post, I know. Serious inquiries only. If you do plan on texting, please put some effort, not just a "hey"? Put some meat on the bone, tell me about you. Eagerly waiting to hear from you 💌