I'm honestly burned out lately with the dating scene, I don't know if anyone else can understand that or knows how I'm feeling. But here lately (this past month), I've tried coming back to the scene and trying to find someone to build a relationship/dynamic with. And I've met some wonderful people on this hunt so far, some great people that we just weren't compatible or just wasn't the right timing. However, I've met a lot of people that just wanted a temporary thing, a chance to get off, or weren't at all invested in something long term. I'm definitely not one to kink shame, or judge someone's lifestyle, but that isn't at all what I'm looking for. I'm looking for something I can build with someone, a relationship that has meaning and potential. Not just a temporary partner to fill the void of being alone/lonely. I've always aligned with the saying or mentality of dating to marry, although it's definitely not something forced. I don't even know if I want to get married in all honesty. But that's the end goal for me? Sure, someone who I can build a loving and healthy relationship with that has the potential for it. If we're not actively looking for someone who can bring the best out of us, and someone we can grow with? What's the point? That's really my question, and in my case the temporary fun or casual dating/dynamics isn't for me.
I'm honestly curious to know if there's more people out there like me, and if you do align with these thoughts, please continue reading below and see if we would be a good match. I'd love to hear from you, whether we decide to pursue a dynamic or not, I'm always a fan of making friends as well.

The basics -
I'm Sam, 29, Male, from Alabama. I'm 6'2, I have a big chest and shoulders, I'm always referenced as a teddy bear or a lumberjack haha. I've been a Daddy, Dom, Master, Owner, for over 8 years now. Most have been long term dynamics that lasted more than a year. I have both experience online and irl.

My hobbies/interests -
So I love the outdoors; I go hiking, camping, whitewater kayaking. If I can be outside, you'll find me there. But it doesn't always have to be high impact or big endurance things either. I love just chilling by a fire or reading a book in a hammock. Speaking of books, I love to read. I'm usually averaging around 50 books a year. I'm more into fantasy and science fiction, I thank my dad for that. So think Tolkien, Issac Asmov, H.G. Wells, Frank Herbert. But I enjoy any book that can captivate my attention of course. I also enjoy spending time with my family, I'm a proud uncle, to my four siblings it gives me plenty of opportunity for my perfect uncle name haha (Uncle Sam). I'm always happy to be the fun goofy uncle that gets silly with them, it comes naturally from my soft daddy side. I also enjoy music and video games, and a good movie. With all of those, the genre mostly depends on the current mood. I pretty much enjoy all. For video games I'm always down for cozy games like Stardew Valley, Minecraft, and the like or more RPG games like Skyrim, Elden Ring, or RDR2. I also play some multiplayer games with the guys as well. I also enjoy puzzles, not just your standard ones, but things like brain teasers or Rubiks cubes (I can solve in less that 30 seconds). But truly I can almost find myself enjoying any hobby or activity if it's with family or friends.

How I am as a Daddy/Dom -
I value honesty, communication, loyalty, and overall someone willing to put in the same effort and work I am. My main goal as a Dom is to make sure you feel comfortable, safe, and happy under my care. All the other stuff is just a great bonus haha. There are two sides to my Dom personality; mostly I'm patient and kind, caring, sweet and loving. But push my buttons too hard, disobey or brat too much and you'll see my stern and strict side. To be clear, I enjoy brats, I love the playful back and forth, but I do expect obedience in the end. As far as nsfw things go, I do enjoy them, but of course I want us to be able to take our time and build a connection first. We can go slowly, take baby steps if necessary. These kinks and dynamics can definitely be fun and include sexual aspects to it, but for me it's definitely not the main focus, just another fun bonus haha. To be clear on when I'm okay with nsfw, it's outside of little or sub headspace, when you feel comfortable and when you can coherently consent. You can see my kinks listed below.

What I'm looking for -
I don't have much preference on looks or personality, but that being said there are some things that will definitely peak my interest more than others. As far as personality goes, I'm typically leaning more towards someone who can mirror me, or at least is compatible with my personality. I enjoy a carefree attitude and more go-with-the-flow type of person. I'm easy to get along with and it takes a lot to get me upset or mad, you can thank my thick skin from growing up with three sisters haha. As I said before, I'm fine with brats, and I do enjoy the playfulness it can bring. But if you are a brat, I want it to be for the playful reasons, the power struggle and being cute. Not being bratty just because, I call that bitch behavior haha.
As far as looks go, I've honestly dated all types. From your paper thin and petite to thicc and curvy women. So it isn't a huge preference, however I am more inclined/attracted to petite or more athletic or (normal?), honestly personality always trumps looks, but that doesn't mean it isn't important as well. I think any romantic or sexual relationship requires physical attraction, but for sure isn't the main focus. My only requirement on looks is being healthy and able to keep an active lifestyle. That goes on both ends, petite and curvy. With all that being said, I totally understand physical and health conditions, and that is an excuse in its own. I fully understand and also have trouble with my thyroid, but I try to eat healthy and go to the gym during the weekdays, and allow for the weekends to be my cheat day. All it requires is diligence and hard work, anyone can do it.

What I can give -
I try my best to provide a safe place for my submissive or little. My main focus is to make sure you thrive in your life, in all parts. I want to be a comforter, and encourager, provider, caregiver, and someone you can count on. Whether it's a place for you to heal, feel comfortable, or just enjoy a space you can feel little or submissive with someone you trust. Of course trust takes time, it is scary to be vulnerable with someone. So I'm perfectly fine taking our time, going slowly, and taking baby steps along the way to happiness. That's in all aspects of our potential dynamic, not just nsfw themed parts. I've also created a handbook or rulebook over the years and curated it, added to it, adjusted it and so on. I use it as a base or building block for us to build off of. Each dynamic is different, so of course we will have different needs. I definitely don't just use it as a blanket rulebook. Anything in it can be added/changed/removed to our specific needs.

My kinks and nsfw side -
I somewhat have a high libido, maybe that's just apart of being a male haha. But just because I do, that doesn't mean I can't take care of it myself, or that I expect my submissive to tend to it. If and when we do engage in nsfw themed content and activities, I want you to join in because you want to, not because you feel obligated to, or just because of service. I want you to want to, make sense? As far as my kinks, I can list the basic ones, and if you're curious about the more specific ones feel free to ask. Impact play, overstimulation, sensory deprivation, orgasm control/denial, edging, bondage, anal/plug, degradation, praise, wax play, breath play, and of course toys. I definitely enjoy nsfw things, but it's not the main focus, it's not the only thing I'm after. I'm perfectly fine, and prefer getting to know someone before it begins. Plus, it's always so much more enjoyable when there is that emotional connection.

Closing statements -
To me, being a Dom or a daddy is so much more than just the fun stuff. I want to take care of someone, be there for them. It may sound cheesy or cringe, but be someone they depend on, someone they can lean on. I've done the temporary or casual dynamics before, and they can be fun in their own way, no shame on those that do it. But as of right now, I want to build a connection with someone.
So if you've like what you've read, if you just want a chat with someone, if you're a little/sub that needs advice, or if you're looking for something I just described: please send me a message or a DM, I'd love to talk with you! I'm happy just making friends, or seeing if we have good chemistry, or anything. So even if you are nervous or scared to try and start a dynamic with someone, that's okay, I know it can be hard to trust someone. So no agenda here, I just hope to meet some lovely people!

Also, I'm definitely an open book, you can ask me anything you want. I can tell you my past experience, my opinion on a matter, I'm willing to discuss anything at all. Oh did I say this would be brief? My apologies haha.
I hope you have a lovely day! Talk to you soon!