Caring Sadist Dom/Daddy Type Seeking Intelligent, Passionate Sub

I’m a caring sadist and daddy type looking for an intelligent, passionate submissive to cherish and do bad things to (consensually, of course!). I’m ideally seeking a long-term partner who can be both my significant other and my good girl.

I stand tall at 6’4”, with a slim, fit build (former college athlete), I and possess a deep voice (I often hear I should read erotica for a living, oddly enough). With striking blue eyes and a generally Germanic appearance, I exude a kind of warmth and strength that draws people in. Those who know me often describe me as having large dog energy—loyal, playful, and always ready to support.

My ideal partner is likely between the ages of 18-30 (but I’m open to connections outside that range). I seek someone sane, educated, kind, curious, and physically active (HWP). Above all, I’m attracted to passionate, thoughtful women who desire discipline, training, and adoration from me.

I place great importance on physical chemistry, viewing it as only the first step; the richness of a relationship goes far beyond that. I want a partner who is my intellectual equal—someone I can admire and be challenged by in daily conversations. I cherish accomplishments and seek a dynamic that extends beyond the bedroom, though I prefer to take control in certain aspects.

Being useful to my partner is essential to me; I find that this aligns closely with my kink preferences, as I thrive on supporting and solving problems for my significant other. Thus, my daddy tendencies come into play. I identify as a caring sadist (not extreme) and a dopey romantic—a mix that means I “like to do not nice things to nice girls.”

Supporting and caring for my partner is paramount; I want to be a net positive in all aspects, not just kink. I’m generally flexible and open-minded—specific activities and props are merely tools to foster our unique dynamic. While I have my favorites (like spanking and training), what truly matters to me is intimacy, trust, and playful exploration. I’ve enjoyed fulfilling dynamics within various archetypes, including DDLG and traditional D/s.

Outside of this, I’m a passionate musician, cook, coffee addict, sailor, and hiker with a love for art history and wine. I’ve recently returned to the Midwest and embrace my enthusiastic, albeit mediocre, athletic pursuits. Engaging deeply in politics (liberal) and niche food topics, I keep conversations lively and diverse.

As for my skills, I give excellent neck rubs to large, fluffy dogs (the best kind!) and have a decent scalp massage technique for people too.

And since it seems customary, here are some light-hearted reviews from friends and family:

"He’s much taller than he appears on Zoom, and just as irritating." - Co-workers
"We used to think you were a partner at the firm until you opened your mouth." - Co-workers
"The piano would be much better without the singing... don’t quit your day job." - Dad
"He’s actually a really good cook, but the surveys after dinner parties are pretty weird." - Friends
"Don’t you have something better to do? What’s this for again? WHAT?" - Mom

If you resonate with this and are interested in exploring what we can create together, I’d love to hear from you!