I’m a NYC native, 5’9”, 220lbs, naturally strong though only recently getting back into working out. I’m endowed (upstairs and downstairs) and identify as a protector, feminist, mentor, guide, anchor, and confidant. I'm a Daddy and as a "disciplinarian" I am more into positive reinforcement (of mutually created goals) than punishment. I'm bilingual (speak Mandarin Chinese at a very high level).

My desire to take care of others stems from my upbringing where I had interactions with two people with Borderline Personality Disorder. My birth mother (also an addict) having Self-Destructive / Impulsive while the woman who raised me, my great grandmother, had more of a Quiet/Discourage type.

Growing up, I strived be the opposite of my birth mother which motivated me to look deep and hard at myself in order to be the best version of me. I always appreciated how my great grandmother provided for me, though I realize now I had to grow up quickly and be the caretaker for her as the “man” of the house while she took care of others as a nurse.

This magical mixture of my intellect, self-awareness and those formative experiences have led to my desire to take care of others (while conversely not wishing to control anyone). This disposition allows me to work well with women who are dominate/strong/independent, and don’t seem submissive, in their day-to-day life yet care to "switch off" in the bedroom. I feel I’m also wonderful for those who are just submissive in life.

I'm Good, Giving, Game (GGG) as my intellect is also expressed in the bedroom, try to give as much as I can, and I’m up for anything that’s not within my hard limits.  For example, I am not a fan of pain (giving or receiving), but if it's what my partner wants, I'll work myself up to be a primal lover.

As for myself, I want to be there for others, but realize I cannot save anyone and have no desire to control anyone. I can only be a catalyst to help someone be their best selves. So yeah, no control, but if you want someone who can help, support, and guide. I enjoy being appreciated and respected and so desire to have someone who’ll listen which can be difficult when not used to it.

I’m open to lovers who are younger though I’m mindful of what power my experience offer and am open to letting things take their course. I don’t have any particular “type” as I’ve dated women of different ethnicities/nationalities (Chinese, Taiwanese, Indian, Jewish, Greek, Iranian, Filipino, Thai, British) from many different family types (liberal, conservative, religious, atheist) and wildly different walks of life (creatives, scientists, teachers, nerds, geeks, CEOs, nurses, social workers, rich, poor, or entitled backgrounds). I do respect “late bloomers” or those who appreciate safe spaces. Neurospicy and deep thinkers are always awesome.

However, if there were an ultimate type I appreciate others who have overcome difficult beginnings / childhood trauma, or who work to overcome emotional/mental struggles and still manage to remain resilient (if not negative) or positive, or those who live atypical lives and can imagine one day just not living in the US.

I wildly respect those who work in the realms of art or social services. When it comes to body types I love thick to bigger women (or at least who have a larger rump as I’m an assman.) Still, I don’t want to paint too restrictive a picture as the “who” a person is matters more to me than “how” they look.

Let’s see, I recently learned about attachment types and realize I’ve gone from an insecure anxious/preoccupied to a more, secure/anxious type, and have decent boundaries. If you know that you have an insecure attachment type that’s okay, just let me know. I’m understanding and open, and can relate.

I’m open to younger partners (younger than 27), but as someone who lives by the motto “do no harm” I’m very mindful of the dynamics that large age gap relationships can bring. I give my promise for honesty and authenticity and will understand if I am but a chapter in your life… one which enhances your story.

I would love to text, learn about your life, talk about life. Would love to share pop songs from the 80s to early 2000s and surprise with flowers every once in awhile. Would love to go to a House of Glory wrestling show. To the movies. I recently got a new tablet which is crazy for android gaming. Would love to build someone an aquarium. I am an encouraging and love love love helping foster others attain their highest form of being. It’d be great to find someone who is into graphic design work.

"Wherever you go, there you are,” after all. This is my motto to life.

Anyhoo… if you’d like a sense of my soul listen to a Few Hours After This by the Cure . :)