Hello Reddit,

I’d like to split my ad into two parts: the kink side of what I’m seeking and the vanilla side of who I am. I’m a 24/7 lifestyler, and my little girl/babygirl persona is a natural part of my everyday life. This side of me comes out at varying levels, depending on the appropriateness of the situation. Usually, it’s only partial, but with my partner, I expect to fully embrace this persona once our relationship is firmly established and committed.

For me, ownership is a heightened version of marriage—a more structured, power-play-infused, consensually controlling dynamic than a typical husband-and-wife scenario. I don’t fully submit outside the confines of marriage. While I’m not expecting marriage tomorrow, in a few months, or even by the end of the year, I do expect any potential partner to know in his heart that he’s ready to start settling down, taking things seriously, and looking for a lifetime, in-person partner to cohabitate and build a life with—financial planning, family decisions, and all. It’s important that he is honest with himself about being ready to court in this manner.

Though I live in Houston, I’m open to exploring options and offers from around the world. I’m open to starting online, getting to know each other, and eventually planning in-person dates to see if the chemistry is there. As the relationship progresses healthily, we can plan how I would relocate, whether it means moving to where you are, finding a new place together, or you coming here. Given that you’ll be the leader in this relationship, you would work out those details.

If we start online rather than meeting locally, I prefer to move quickly to either Signal or Discord for phone or video calls once we feel a spark or connection. Typing alone doesn’t do justice to communication, and without the ability to meet in person for dates, phone calls are crucial to understanding vocal intonation, body language, and eye contact.

Let’s start with the fun side before getting into the more adult aspects of me, hehe.

I first realized I was a little girl in my late teens/early twenties. I’ve had plenty of time to explore who I am, and I’m confident and secure in it. While I expect to grow as a person, and I tend to change more than the average person as time goes by, I am certain about who I am. I switch between the terms babygirl and little girl because I’m not into ABDL or regression. My headspace is youthful, naïve, childish, and full of a playful, nymph-like energy. A part of me has never grown up, and it’s important that my partner not only understands that but also desires, encourages, and is thrilled by it.

Once the relationship is secure, stable, and consistent, my little side is very sexual in nature. I don’t plan on getting sexual with my partner until after marriage, but that’s something to expect. Once a man becomes my daddy, I’ll call him Daddy almost exclusively, even replacing his real name in most situations. If it’s not appropriate to say Daddy in public, I would need a similar nickname because using his legal or chosen name would feel too adult and distant. This title has a deep emotional and mental imprint on my psyche, and my little girl is highly impressionable. This is why I need a partner who’s 24/7.

I see a lot of people use words like “needy” and “clingy” to describe the communication, emotional, and proximity needs of either side of the dynamic. I’m someone who believes that words have power, energy, and influence. Instead, I like to say that my little girl gets attached, fastened, and tethered to him. I would need a daily check-in and goodnight check-in during the consideration period and throughout the relationship as it grows. Even just saying a quick “hi” or “hope your day is going well” is important to me, as it helps build the structure and safe container I need to move forward. Even in my busiest times, I always make an effort to send a quick note or message, and I need you to do the same. Time away or timeouts in separate rooms would be more troubling than a mere punishment. I require a lot of encouragement, praise, admiration, tenderness, sweetness, coddling, spoiling, protection, affirmations, and attention. I’m the baby; gotta love me!

My everyday personality is bubbly and energetic, being a natural little girl. But when I’m in little headspace, unless I’m tired or under the weather, I’m on a 10 out of 10—high energy, loud voices, and lots of running around. Most people are taken aback by how much I talk and how loud I can be, often wanting to mute or quiet me down. But I know that my husband daddy would see this as an enticing challenge to either match my intensity or cherish it as exactly what he needs.

I like to be compliant to a degree, but I also like a safe environment where I can be a bit bratty, pokey, and explore my boundaries to remember who owns me. It’s less of a challenge and more of a you’re-so-safe-I-get-to-figure-out-how-far-I-can-push-before-it’s-too-much kind of thing. I’m more motivated by the desire to please, succeed, get gold stars, and satisfy than by avoiding punishment. I’m oriented towards making my daddy proud by doing things right rather than being naughty.

My servitude comes from my need to give my mind, body, and soul to my husband daddy. I’m most comfortable when, after work and business, I can be as mindless as possible around him. Even when I’m doing my big adult jobs, networking, and socializing, there are cues and items set in place to remind me that he’s always there, even if physically absent. As fellow babygirls Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion say, “I don’t cook, I don’t clean, but let me tell you how I got this ring and collar.” My servitude doesn’t include cooking, cleaning, or being a domestic servant. Instead, you get to know my style, interests, and preferences, and you decide what I wear, when I sleep, and what I eat. It’s important that my daddy isn’t here for a power ego but because he needs a partner he can bring to greatness—someone who will blossom and grow under his guidance.

For me, love includes deep respect, honor, worship, reverence, and cherishing in exchange for his devotion to me. Daddy is always above me and is to be treated as such.

As for hard and soft limits, those can be discussed during courtship. While flirting and innuendo are fine along the way, I’m not a hard player—I’m not into masochism or sadism, and I lean more towards the mental aspects of play. I’ve coined my style as “softcore,” not in a pornographic sense, but in taking the core elements of discipline, domination, and submission and softening them through silliness, playfulness, curiosity, and embracing the inner child on the outside.

Now, onto the adult side of me: I’m a 37-year-old Black, Native American, and Mexican woman. I’m graceful and confident with a unique sense of style. Standing at a medium height, I have a curvy, feminine figure that I embrace fully. I love expressing my personality through my appearance, often dressing in elegant outfits that complement my body shape. My light pink hair adds a playful, creative touch, while my glasses give me a thoughtful, intellectual vibe. I have a warm, inviting smile that I love sharing with the world. Whether dressed up for a night out or keeping it casual, I take pride in presenting myself with confidence and charm.

I dress alternatively and used to be into Japanese Gothic Lolita fashion for 13 years. While I still like some elements, I now prefer experimenting more with my looks. I like dressing kawaii, bright, and graphic, within a deep winter palette. I have one tattoo on my right lower calf and plan on getting more, including on my back and chest. While I have no piercings, I’m not opposed to exploring that. My style is bold and colorful, even in workout clothes.

While single, I’ve used this time for personal growth, communication development, financial literacy, and spiritual practice. I view singlehood as a time to train and prepare for the ultimate test of time in a relationship. I’ve also delved into tantric yoga and other practices, though I’m celibate until marriage (not a virgin, though).

I’m polyamorous in the sense that I only want one daddy, but I’m bisexual and may eventually want the option of having casual flings with others, depending on how our relationship evolves. I may become fixated on you and not pursue this, but that’s not guaranteed. Daddy would need to pick and supervise these interactions because I trust his judgment more than my own in choosing the right partners.

I’m very spiritual and consider myself a mystic. I’m deeply into Vedic astrology and am a Pisces sun, Virgo rising, and Scorpio moon. I’ll likely ask you to pay for an astrologer to run our Vedic synergy chart and expect future consultations for major life events. In Human Design, I’m a Projector, meaning I have a penetrating aura and prefer one-on-one interactions. I’m also an INTJ in Myers-Briggs and dabble in various spiritual practices like smudging, candle magic, Reiki, essential oils, yoga, numerology, and spellwork. I resonate with Harry Potter (book first, movie second), and I’m a blend of Luna Lovegood and Professor Trelawney.

Job-wise, I'm a data analyst currently expanding my knowledge in management certifications and small business acquisitions. I’m eager to add these to my skillset, talents, and sources of income. I actively read to grow in my professional life, attend networking events, and am continually learning about financial literacy. I dedicate time weekly to courses and books on the subject and regularly review my personal finances. I would prefer a partner who is either on their way to becoming financially literate or already has a solid grasp on it.

While I appreciate the typical "little girl" desires like stuffies and sweets, I’m the type who’s more impressed by practical matters. I value emergency preparedness (not end-of-the-world levels, but a sufficient few months’ worth of supplies), emergency savings, access to regenerative farmed foods, distilled or reverse osmosis water, and the ability to cover medical and wellness expenses. While a new toy or pair of shoes is nice, I’m more interested in what contributes to a higher quality of life.

Cultural Appreciation

I have a mystical connection and deep appreciation for Japanese culture, which has been a part of my life for decades. I love travel and music, both of which I have a deep, mystical connection to as well. My musical tastes lean towards indie rock, indie pop, EDM (especially house), and rappers who embody baby girl, bratty, or daddy personas in their lyrics, whether they express the spicy, fun, or emotional sides of the dynamic. I also enjoy synthpop, new wave, goth, a bit of folk, and pop. I tend to gravitate towards more emotional songs than high-energy intense ones. While our tastes don’t have to match, music is something I’m deeply into.

Interests and Hobbies

I’m a foodie who loves exploring different cuisines and trying out new foods. I love art, nature, plants, and dogs. Sanrio, especially Little Twin Stars, holds a special place in my heart. I’m also an anime fan, currently watching "Mermaid Melody Pichi Pichi Pure," and before that, "Ronin Warriors." I prefer anime and TV shows that are not only entertaining but also teach emotional, mental, and spiritual growth lessons. I view these as a fun way to grow and learn.

I enjoy listening to audiobooks, visiting tea houses, drinking boba, and going to Korean spas. Staying active is important to me. I love attending art festivals, music festivals, film festivals, and cultural events like Greek Heritage Days, Chinese New Year celebrations, or appreciating Japanese cherry blossoms. Here in Houston, I also enjoy events put on by the Italian society. These activities represent my interests, balancing fun with work, learning, magic, and rest.

I’m not always on the go and don’t always attend social events on weekends, but when I do, these activities are more my speed than clubbing, video games, Netflix and chill, or sports events. However, I’m not opposed to attending sports events if my eventual Daddy/husband is into it. In such cases, I would be doing it more for the subservience, the “good girl” factor, pleasing him, earning gold stars, making him happy, and, if he’s into it, enjoying the experience of being shown off in public.

Personal Details

I have no kids and have never been married, but I’m open to having children. I expect you to be upfront if you have kids or have been married before so that we can start on the same page of openness from the first message.

What I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a partner who is between 25-45 years old. If you’re older, please don’t apply. Seriously. You should be a natural Daddy Dominant, someone whose demeanor in everyday life at the store, at work, with family, or with friends exudes that unmistakable “Mr. Rogers” vibe. You’re definitely a pleasure-oriented Dom, both in and out of the bedroom, someone who finds fulfillment in making his lady happy by any means necessary. You have a controlling and possessive side, ensuring I know I’m yours and needing to exert your presence because you know what’s best.

You should have enough self-control to handle the gift of my mindlessness, adoration, fixation, and looking to you as my North Star responsibly, without turning it into an ego trip or an opportunity to take advantage of me. I date all races, but my dating history has predominantly been with men who are not Black. While I’m 5’8", shorter guys don’t bother me.

You’re probably also going to be weird, quirky, kooky, or somehow “not normal” outside of kink. Some people are regular Joes outside of the scene, but I doubt you’re one of them. When you see my core relationship beliefs, you’ll feel aligned with them:

• Wealth
• Wellness
• Teamwork
• Hard Work
• Willingness
• Strength

Wealth Segment

When it comes to wealth, there are various levels of affluence, from comfortable to high-earning to affluent to rich to wealthy. While younger men under 30 can be at any of these levels, I’m not necessarily expecting you to be there when we meet. What’s most important is the trajectory of wealth you’re on. I need my husband/Daddy/Owner to always be on a self-improvement journey, never wanting to stop and be static in his professional and financial life. If you’re the type who wants a woman to take care of you, wants to just retire and stay still, or is fine with where you are and wants to stay there for the next five-plus years, we’re not a match.

While I’m currently working full-time with some side hustles as I’m single and unclaimed, I’m open to becoming more of a house-slave/housewife (minus the cooking and cleaning—it’s a pretty hard limit for me). My partner knows either he or we will be combining our finances for home staff support, whether it’s cleaners or whatever the housing situation requires. While cooking can be fine, I’m never going to do it as a form of submission or subservience. I’m not wired that way. However, I would always need the opportunity to study, take professional certifications, obtain higher education degrees, or go back into working or entrepreneurship if I had the urge. So while working isn’t something I must do, it always has to be an option.

My Personality and Core Values

My Venus is in Aries, so I have an assertive, fiery nature. My core values reflect that. I see dating and marrying into the lifestyle as akin to thoroughbred horse racing—requiring higher levels of communication, empathy, vulnerability, negotiation, synergy, and the ability to relate more than vanilla-style dating and marriage.

Musical Connection

Music is special to me, and I feel that there will be a musical quality to our relationship. Please share a song with me in your response—any topic or theme, your choice.

To start off the exchange, maybe one of these will resonate with you:

• "I Like You (A Happier Song)" by Post Malone
• "First Class" by Jack Harlow
• "Suit and Tie" by Justin Timberlake and Jay-Z

I have multiple playlists around themes of both the individuals and the synergy between the two amongst other emotional/mental/energetic subjects. hehe

Final Thoughts

The length, intensity, specificity, and high standards in this note are simply a precursor and preview of what to expect if you choose to approach me. If this entices, excites, intrigues, and turns you on, we might be a good match. However, if you’re thinking of taming my communication, silencing me, or making me quiet, I’m not the one for you. I know my husband/Daddy/Owner will see these traits in me and want to enhance my communication skills, my logic, reasoning, and yes, my wordiness. For the average person, this might seem crazy, wild, and totally mind-blowing in the weirdest way possible, but I also know that my husband/Daddy/Owner and I have a psychic connection. He’s real and an actual human being, and I’m simply doing my part to connect us in real life and to join together on this journey of life.

Here in Houston it is 8/19/2024 almost 3 PM CST, by the way. Extra magic points if you notice what planetary day and hour I purposely sent this through! ;)

Ikimashou! Ganbatte yo