Hello dear stranger. I've written this ad in the hopes of finding a wonderful person, who very well might be you, to make some precious memories with! In similar posts I see demands for highly specific things in huge lists of criteria their potential partner must meet, which seems like unrealistic and a little silly to me. I'm not looking for the incarnation of an idealized imaginary person, but for someone who's a wonderful addition to my life, and though this post is written for a romantic partner, please don't hesitate to contact me if you think we'd make for good friends

So about me!

What I'm like

Starting with the basics, I'm a 29 year old father of one beautiful kitten living near the centre of the Netherlands.
I'm an eccentric, warm, and almost a bit too confident. My humour varies from quirky jokes and puns to darker and edgier one. Though I'm usually quite playful and full of laughter, I find it easy to switch to more serious topics. I'm very open and honest about my opinions, and I can be quite patient and be understanding. I go into meeting new people and situation with confidence and curiosity, and being the social bean I am, I find it easy to walk away with a new friend or new experience. Though I shine brightly around others, I also love hanging out by myself or with one other while doing our own things. I love high adrenaline activities, and I would generally describe myself as intense, though I equally enjoy the cosy, intimate, and relaxing things. I frequently find new projects and passions, and I'm always working one way or another on improving myself. I'm quite masculine on most fronts, but I'd say it's sprinkled with some flamboyant and feminine quirks here and there. I value unique individuals who don't conform for the sake of fitting in. I do not believe in the supernatural and I'm not religious. I value science and most of my views are based on the beautiful blend of empathy and scientific research. I don't smoke but I do occasionally enjoy a drink or some other recreational substance
I'm endlessly intrigued by anything strange, unconventional, unique, spooky, bizarre, intense, and extreme. I enjoy the intimate, authentic, and unique usually more than the common things.

Looks

I have black hair that sometimes magically decides to curl, dark brown eyes, and a short trimmed beard. I have a fairly light olive skin that tans easily, and thanks to my skincare routine it's in amazing condition!
I exercise quite frequently and I'm quite fit. I have one earring, and a tattoo on my back. Sometimes I paint my nails black. I like to dress up, typically find me wearing dress shirts with my chest hair bared like some South American night club owner or in streetwear, and once a blue moon I'll wear a skirt. But the saying that a picture says more than a thousand words holds very true, so let's exchange pics soon and find out if we find each other attractive!

Hobbies and interests!

My interests are quite varied. I enjoy exercise a lot, be it weightlifting, running, stretching, or kickboxing.
To cover my creative needs I like to draw, paint miniatures, write, play Dungeons and Dragons, do improv and stand-up, and I'm working on my own role playing game!
I'm intrigued by most fields of science, but especially philosophy, psychology, and sociology. Though I'll admit my knowledge is more shallow than I wish it to be on those subjects.

I'm quite picky about my shows and movies, but there is quite a variety in my tastes, I can enjoy anything from silly cartoons to artsy movies. I hope there's some overlap in the media we enjoy, it would make it a lot less frustrating for you when I hog the remote control. So here's some stuff I like:

First off, books! I love to read, though like every reader, I don't do it nearly as often as I would like to. A few of my favourites are:

• No Longer Human
• Catcher in the Rye
• Nineteen Eighty-Four
• Watchmen
• Crime and Punishment

I like playing video games as well. I like games with good stories and interesting worlds, and some competitive games such as:

• the Witcher
• Bloodborne & the Souls series
• Pokemon
• Super Smash
• Bioware RPGs
• League of Legends
• Baldur's Gate 3

I like to watch anime, cartoons, movies, and tv series. A few of my favourites are;

• Rick and Morty
• Archer
• BoJack Horseman
• Big Mouth
• Adventure Time
• Death Note
• Akira
• Neon Genesis Evangelion
• Berserk
• Django Unchained
• Moonrise Kingdom
• Fight Club
• Stalker
• the Prestige
• the Big Lebowski
• Alien
• REC
• Parasite

And of course, music;

• Alt-J
• Twenty-One Pilots
• Gojira
• Arctic Monkeys
• Justice
• My Chemical Romance

Where I'm at in my life! I used to work as a kickboxing instructor, however now I've gotten accepted into a really cool programming school, which I'll be occupied with for about a year and a half more. Last year I scratched off my goals of getting my motorcycle license, performing in an improv show, and performing stand-up, and my goals for this year is to do a handstand, learn to juggle, do a full split, and maybe even get in shape for a kickboxing competition.

When I'm not occupied with those things, one might catch me making new friends, trying out new things, reading, or playing games

Experience

I've been into BDSM for about a decade now (you know you're getting old when you start saying things like "a decade ago"), and I have quite some experience under my belt. I've been in multiple relationships in which kink played large or small roles, both online and in person. These experiences definitely helped to figure out my needs from one, and to hone my skills as a dom and as a partner, and so, safety, clear enthusiastic consent, and communication have become non-negotiable for play. Kink for me is another way to express affection, and oh boy am I affectionate!

Potential deal breakers!

I think it's important to be honest and open. I'm not a perfect person and deals that come in this package that might make you stop reading right here, and here they are!:

I'm short! I personally do not care, but reading personals and browsing through dating sites it's not hard to conclude that most do.

I'm broke! I've struggled with mental health for a large portion of my life, and though I'm doing wonderful now, I am still picking up things career/school wise, so it might take a while before I get the financial ball rolling! I have enough to get by and have plenty fun though, but do not expect buying a house soon!

I'm not looking for anything exclusive. You might've guessed from the title but I'm poly. And I currently have a partner I live with.

I'm unsure towards kids! I'm totally okay with it if you do happen to have kids, and somewhere in he far future I might be open for adoption. I myself am snipped however, so it's highly improbable there'll ever spawns with my DNA roaming around the world.

Now then.. Still reading? Let's continue!

What I'm looking for!

I'm looking for a partner to adore and be adored by! She isn't a long list of criteria I demand, but a cisgendered woman of any ethnicity, class, status, and age, who makes me happy!
I'm not looking for a specific dynamic either, there are so many dynamics and types of relationships I could thrive in, but for any of these dynamics to work, she must have these core traits:

Driven to please

It's important to me that you actively enjoy pleasing your partner. I like to take care of my partner, but I don't enjoy it when that's the main focus. I work much better with someone who's passionate and enthusiastic about pleasing their dom. I see submission as an act of affection, and I don't enjoy someone else's submission unless they take pleasure in submitting.

Warm and intense

I don't do well with cold or distant people. I need you to be emotionally available and you should be comfortable showing affection. I'm completely fine with it if you express your affection in unconventional or intense ways. I absolutely do not shy away from expressing my affection, be it through words, deeds, touch, or gifts, you'll definitely know how wanted you are! I also give great massages and love to cook for those close to me! How do you express your affection?

Maturity

I'm looking for someone who despite loves following me, is perfectly capable of being an independent adult. I expect you to be emotionally available, and that you're not looking for someone to "complete" or "fix" you, I want us to enrichen and make each other shine. I'm not at all interested in petty fights, or easily frustrated people.

You value open and honest communication!

Bit of a cliché I'm sure, but it's important to me still It's no fun to dig and prod to learn about your partner's feelings and thoughts, so I hope you're excited about both listening and sharing about yourself!

You share some of my interests, kinks, and values

Of course we won't share all of them and that's perfectly fine. But there should be some overlap. I don't expect a perfect copy of myself, if I did I'd simply get with my mirror y'know? Having similar views and interests makes bonding much easier!

Mutual attraction!

I think it's important to absolutely love each other's looks! I don't have a type and I find many things attractive, however, I do have two requirements in the looks department. One of them is hygiene. This one should be quite self-explanatory. Cleanliness is sexy! I'm not a clean-freak and don't expect you to be pristine at all times, but I absolutely do appreciate someone taking care of themselves, which sadly isn't a given, apparently. Secondly, though I can enjoy thiccc and curvy, I find it difficult to feel attracted towards plus size women. I feel super shallow about it but sadly it's just not for me.

Clarification!

Before we carry on, I'd like to make a few things clear.

Experience is not a requirement. However, knowing this sort of lifestyle is for you, so you should be sure that you'd enjoy a heavy involvement of BDSM outside of the bedroom!

We don't need to be a perfect match in every regard. We do need some overlap in our interests, but you don't need to be into everything I am.

As stated in the title, I am looking for someone reasonably close by

I'm 100% okay and supportive of your mental (or physical) struggles! Life's tough!

The Dynamic

So! You've read a bit about me and what I want, and I believe a big question still remains. What dynamic am I looking for? At its core, I want one based on love, support, and appreciation for each other. The exact dynamic would simply be what works best for us. I like to imagine my partner to be a huge support to me, as sort of personal assistant, and maybe even a gaming or sports buddy. I like doing my own things, but it'd fantastic if we'd share some interests we'd be able to do together. I to love sprinkle in some DDlg elements (but not abdl) into my relationships for the intimacy and vulnerability that comes with it. I like making rules that involve self improvement for my partner. Ideally we'd work towards a TPE relationships that's sprinkled with affection.

In short, I'm looking for someone to juggle vanilla loving, DDlg, and D/s with!

Now for the spicy part! Kinks!

Honestly as long as you don't kill my mom or shit in my mouth we're probably fine. I'm into almost anything. My favourites include TPE, wardrobe control, edge play, humiliation, pain, butt stuff, worship, biting, free use, and orgasm control. I enjoy being in charge of things both in and out of the bedroom, so ideally kink is something you enjoy sprinkled through the day!

So!

You've finally made it to the end of a piece of text that's much too long. And if you did that without skimming or skipping, good job! I'm jealous of your ability to concentrate for so long. If I seem like someone you'd like to get to know... well what are you waiting for? Send me a message about why you think we might be a good match and please add a picture! Your message doesn't have to be as elaborate as my ad, but I'd appreciate receiving one detailed enough to for me to tell whether we're a good match or not.

I hope the hear from you soon! xo!