Brief Summary

Hi, thanks for taking the time to check out my post! I’m an inexperienced 22 year old cis man from NJ looking for a monogamous LTR with a dominant/care-giving cis woman or NB who was assigned female at birth, who is between the ages of 18-35, and who has any level of experience. Just a heads up, some of this will be repeated later in the post.

About Me

I’m a 22 year old cis man from NJ. I’m 5’7", white, slim (130 lbs), and have longer brown hair and blue eyes.

I’m inexperienced and I’m looking for a monogamous relationship with someone between 18 and 35 (ideally 20-30) based in the NJ or NY area- States around NJ are possibly okay too.

I’m currently on break from college where I’m majoring in computer science and hoping to get my bachelor’s. In my free time, I like to hang out with friends, play video games, watch youtube or shows, learn guitar, do yoga, and spend time with my dog, but in life I usually just go with the flow and let adventures find me. Environmentalism, human rights, feminism, and adjacent causes are important to me and I lean left in politics. I’m plant-based and have a passion for animal welfare and nature, so anyone with a plant-based diet certainly has my attention haha. My primary love languages are quality time and physical touch, but I value them all. I don’t smoke, and I’m DDF aside from drinking occasionally and using marijuana rarely.

As I said, I’m inexperienced in D/s (Cg/l in this case) relationships, but I’m capable and willing to learn from someone more experienced or learn with someone less experienced. In the meantime, I’ve been doing research myself to prepare to support my partner in a dynamic.

My Ideal Relationship

For starters, I’m looking for a partner whom I can trust, eventually if we click and trust each other enough, submit to and worship, and most importantly become best friends with. Starting off online is fine, but I'd like things to eventually move to irl.

I’m looking for a cis woman or NB who was assigned female at birth, with an average, curvy, athletic, or muscular body type (no shame to anyone else! ). I'm hoping that they’re caring, kind, assertive, and hopefully outgoing (it's okay not, I'm just a little shy), and that they share some of my values/politics.

I prefer gentle dommes or mommy dommes, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like some other displays of dominance. I’m hoping for the dynamic to be a normal thing, like in public and around the house- not just in the bedroom.

For my partner: I can cook and clean, I would like to take care of and pamper them, and I’d want to do what is requested and commanded of me, if I haven’t done it already. I also tend to be pretty clingy. From my partner: I would hope to be guided, disciplined/punished, and directed, have some decisions made for me, be cared for and pampered myself, be bathed, be shown dominance over in public and private, and of course, be the little spoon.

Overall I hope we could make each other happy and have a fulfilling, long-lasting, and meaningful relationship with fun dates, where we can be ourselves, and share lots of love, affection, respect, communication, and intimacy.

NSFW and Dynamic Stuff

My hard limits: Anything that involves scat, more or other partners/subjects, extreme CBT, and extreme violence/pain.

Kinklist can be found on my other ads. I have a lot of fantasies, and I’d love to explore them with someone!

D/s dynamic: I think I'd like a few dynamics (hopefully some combination of all or multiple), being FLR, “D/s lovers,” Cg/l (still figuring out my little age), bondage, and training/pet play.

Previous d/s experience(s): Anything works for me. If they’re experienced, I am happy and willing to learn from them, and if not, we can learn and grow together :)

Available toys and equipment: I have nothing of my own currently, but I'd love to use stuff in the future. So, if they have any, that would be good. If not that can easily be discussed.

Down the Line

In general, my focus is to please my partner, make them feel special, and earn their affection. I myself am very loving, affectionate, and obedient (maybe with a little spice, if they’re into it ;) ). I love giving and receiving physical/emotional affection more than anything. The thought of making someone who loves, appreciates, and understands me feel themselves loved, appreciated, and understood brings me joy.

I'm pretty much an open book when it comes to trying most kinky stuff too, especially with being inexperienced. There’s a lot that interests me that I have yet to try. If my partner’s into something I'm not, or vice versa, I'd be more than happy to work it out so that we are both satisfied, most importantly my partner of course. I'm also open to switching, but I'm happiest with being the sub.

If any of this has interested you and you'd like to chat, please dm me a bit about yourself, your looks (or picture), and what you want in a relationship and from me as a partner. I’d love to get to know you and I will try to respond asap, at most within a few hours. I’d prefer verification after some chatting so that we know we click first.

I look forward to meeting you! :)