What I want out of a relationship:

This post’s title is not an exaggeration. I am looking for a woman who absolutely loves the thought of being my princess – not just on days like Valentine’s Day, but during every single moment of every single day. The concept of ‘princess treatment’ would essentially be the foundation of our relationship. You would be my princess, and I would be your faithful knight (which does not mean that I am ‘submissive’ or a pushover, by the way). 

Now, what does ‘princess treatment’ mean, exactly? To me, it means making you feel special, feminine, and cherished. I want to take care of you, fix your problems, give you attention, and make you smile every single day. I believe that it’s really important to put effort into a relationship, because what is the point of having a relationship if you take it for granted? I absolutely love old-fashioned romance and chivalry, things like giving you flowers and thoughtful gestures (holding open the door, carrying your bags, pulling out a chair for you before seating myself, …). 

Aside from the ‘princess treatment’, I simply want a calm, sweet, and harmonious relationship – based on love, honesty, patience, respect, and (most importantly) a special connection. I also really like the concept of ‘traditional gender roles’, meaning that a man should be a man and that a woman should be a woman (as vague as that sounds, admittedly). With that having been said: the concept of ‘traditional gender roles’ should not be taken to the extreme. I do not believe that a man should never do any domestic chores, and I think that the role of a ‘housewife’ is (unfortunately) quite outdated in modern society. 

Does all of this sound like a dream to you? That’s great, but I can only treat you like a princess IF you are a true princess – and unfortunately for me, that’s a very rare breed nowadays. I need to feel a special connection with you before my ‘princess treatment instinct’ is triggered.

Before I move on to the next paragraph, I want to reaffirm that I am not ‘submissive’ or a pushover. I want to be your hero, not your slave. I want to feel appreciated and respected, and I expect you to put in effort as well. For example, I really appreciate it when you occasionally dress up and make yourself extra pretty for me (make-up, a nice dress, high heels, lingerie, …). This sounds odd, but I love it when you try to be the perfect ‘doll’ for me. Aside from that, I obviously appreciate the more ‘common’ gestures of love as well (i.e. baking me something, hand-made things, …). 

What I look for in a partner:

Your personality is really important to me. I think that it would be quite difficult to develop a genuine connection with someone who does not have (almost) all of the following qualities:

I want someone who is a ‘girly girl’ and is very much in touch with her feminine side (or would like to explore it, but has never really had the opportunity to do so). You love things like (receiving) flowers, shopping, make-up and cosmetics, getting your hair and nails done, romance, gossiping and maybe even ‘childish’ stuff like Disney Princess or Barbie movies (obviously, these things are just examples). 

I want someone who feels like a bit of an ‘outsider’. This one is a bit tricky to explain, but this is where the ‘Disney Princess’ part comes in. Maybe other people consider you to be a bit ‘weird’, maybe you haven’t had an easy life, or maybe you feel as if you’ve never really been treated right.

I want someone with a more traditional or old-fashioned view on life. I don’t want someone who goes to clubs (yuck), raves (double yuck), or engages in hook-up culture (triple yuck). I don’t find it attractive if you do drugs or smoke, though this isn't a deal-breaker. I'm not a big fan of tattoos, either. I don’t expect you to be a virgin, but it’s not attractive if you have a high ‘body count’ or if you’ve regularly explored your sexuality over the internet.

[And yes, some other qualities definitely matter as well and are certainly more important than the aforementioned ones, but which girl wouldn’t say that she is (for example) ‘loyal and sweet’?]

Obviously, your physical appearance is important as well. I cannot fall in love with someone that I do not find physically attractive. I do have certain preferences (just like every single other person), but they’re not important enough to mention – except for two of them. First of all, I really like it when a woman puts effort into her appearance and enjoys getting all dressed up. Aside from that, I am simply not attracted to people who do not have a ‘white’ skin colour.

About me:

I do not want to turn this paragraph into some sort of sales pitch, so I will tell you about my less positive sides as well. 

Physical:

I am a twenty-six year old male from the Netherlands. I have a rather deep voice, broad shoulders and a fairly athletic physical build in general (though I am not particularly muscular), brown hair, dark brown eyes and a very thick penis (~16cm in circumference, which is probably thicker than your wrist). I am of average height and weight (180cm / 75kg). I think that it's quite important to exchange pictures early on, because there is no point in getting to know each other if there is no physical attraction.

Mental / personality:

In terms of personality, I would say that I have quite a masculine mindset – but like a gentleman and not some sort of caveman. I am calm, patient, responsible, intelligent, determined, polite, loyal, caring, protective and reliable. In the bedroom, I enjoy being more ‘dominant’ and rough. I am not a very emotional person in general, but I absolutely love old-fashioned romance. I would summarize myself as a ‘masculine nerd’, if that makes sense.

As for what keeps me occupied in daily life: I recently graduated from university (master’s / graduate degree) and I’ve been working on a full-time basis since then (earning well above average). My career development is important to me and I would say that I am quite successful for my age. Overall, my life is in pretty good shape and I have enough to be proud of. 

So, I do have some less positive sides as well, and I want to be honest about them. I’m very introverted, quite socially awkward and generally weird / an ‘outsider’. If you want a man who is adventurous and spontaneous, then you’ve got the wrong person. I do not have many friends and I really like spending time by myself. Aside from that, I don’t really have a very positive outlook on life and society in general, so I can be kind of mean and cynical (not to my partner, though).

What now?

Do you think that we would probably be a good match (based on what I want out of a relationship, AND what I look for in a partner, AND the description of myself)? I’m looking forward to your message. Make sure to tell me a little bit (or a lot) about yourself and what about my post caught your attention. I won’t reply to short messages without any substance. 

Do NOT message me if you are quite unsure about this post and are just trying your luck. At the very least, you should resonate with most of what you’ve read (and ideally, your heart should have skipped a beat while reading this post), although it’s fine if we have a few ‘differences’. Your location doesn’t really matter too much, but as a rule of thumb: the farther away you are from me, the more you should like this post. 

I don’t want to talk to a metaphorical wall, so put some effort into our conversation (i.e. show interest in me and ask me questions in return, don’t keep your answers really short). I would also appreciate it if you’re not talking to a bunch of other people at the same time, because that makes it more difficult to develop a genuine connection. You should also know that I will not really treat you like a princess before we have an actual relationship, although I will obviously put effort into 'courting' you. 

If I get the impression that we are not a good match (whether that be because of your personality or appearance), then I will be blunt about it and tell you so. I prefer to not waste my or your time, and you should have the same attitude. I either feel a ‘spark’ almost immediately, or I don’t and (probably) never will. 

If we get along very well (or possibly even start a relationship), then I would like to meet up within a few months from now. After all, what’s the point of talking to each other if there is no chemistry between us in real life?

I understand that the ‘tone’ of this post (and especially this final paragraph) is quite strict and serious. I’m not always like that, I have a fun-loving and ‘silly’ side as well. I simply know what I want and I also know what I do not want – this post is just an expression of these thoughts, not a reflection of my (entire) personality.