I am 35 AFAB nonbinary. I am dark skinned, femme with locs, average height, and slim build. I am a switch but I am looking for a caregiver. I find this is a role that I need filled in my life. I am polyamorous and have other partners but not in this specific way.

What I am looking for:
I want to stress that I am not looking for a solely sexual connection. I am Demisexual and require connection to have sexual attraction.The mental aspects of submission are what excites me the most. I would like to find someone that not only is willing to build this dynamic with me, but also establish a romantic connection if the spark is there. I want someone who is nurturing and romantic, but also strict and actively wants to help me with my growth.

I am in no rush and want to take time building a connection. I want a caretaker first and foremost. Someone who can comfort me with the words and their voice. Someone who can make me giggle and laugh. Someone I can cry to when I'm having a hard day. Someone who looks out for my well-being, interests and goals first. A caregiver that sees me as fragile, and small and wants to protect me. I want you to be my safe space.

I need someone who can take control in ways that will benefit my life. I desperately need guidance and control. I thrive off routine and structure.

This does not mean I am not open to a sexual connection or exploring kinks. I definitely would love to explore the things I enjoy, what you enjoy and maybe we both can learn something new. However if the conversation leans heavily this way in the beginning I am less likely to engage. But again, emotional connection is needed.

~Some~ of the kinks I enjoy include orgasm denial, nipple play, some pain play, body worship, acts of service (for you of course). There is more and I’m an pretty open as far as kinks go. Always looking to expand and explore new things! Control is still at the top of this list.

Hard stops: scat, urine, blood play, but boundaries are the most important thing to me ultimately. I’m okay with going out of my comfort zone, but I’m not okay with crossing any boundaries- yours or mine.

Other things about me:
I am very introverted, and neurodivergent. I can be quiet however I am trying to work on this. I am a homebody and tend to enjoy quiet moments but a night of fun can sometimes be a nice change. Besides this, I am inquisitive, I have a strong passion for social injustices and a soft spot for animals - especially dogs and reptiles.

I enjoy watching true crime documentaries, anime, cartoons in general, and really dumb comedy. Reality TV is my guilty pleasure. I am also very interested in botany, plant identification, and foraging and have been immersing myself in these subjects to gain more knowledge. I have a huge love for plants and nature in general. I love reading but I don’t read as much as I should, and I am a very very very casual gamer. I do smoke (420), and enjoy wine or a nice glass of scotch.

I would prefer to primarily chat by text of some sort, I can do video messages as well but…we can talk about preferred communication later. Happy to exchange pics. I am not opposed to IRL connections but I am okay with starting and/or staying online.

So what do you say? I would be honored to be devoted to you. I would be thrilled to have the loving, protective, caring caregiver I desire.

Thank you for your time! I hope to be chatting with you soon :)