Hi there! I'm Fen, a pleasure Dom / Daddy looking for a long term submissive partner to dote on, explore fantasies with, and do cute winter shit with (like baking cookies and exploring botanical garden light shows??). Above all, I'm looking for a connection built for the long term, based on a healthy foundation of friendship and communication. I want to give support and feel supported as well, by someone I can show my true self to, who understands that being a Dom doesn't entail being an infallible rock without emotional needs.

Who I am: I'm a heteroflexible/queer cis white male, 28, with an average build (5'9" 175lbs), tattoos, pierced ears and maintained facial hair, nice hands, and two cute cats. Nerdy, foodie (love to cook and bake), politically liberal, type A personality, history buff, tea lover, neurodivergent (ADHD & anxiety), big into board & video games and being outdoors. Lately I've been really into improv comedy, Indian food and travel.

I have an established career working with data but also dreams of something closer to self employment to support homesteading. At this point in my life I'm not really interested in children of my own (I prefer being a pet dad). An online connection is fine at first for me but I couldn't do it forever -- I'm currently living in the Denver area but am not necessarily tied down to one location.

What I'm looking for: In a dynamic, the power of intimate knowledge of my partner's mind and body, and being able to exert that over them with precision. Lots of slow burn dirty talk, drawn out teasing, playing with sexual frustration and neediness. I prefer enforcing my control with a gentle smile and sweet condescension over the sting of a paddle (though I do love spanking!).

I LOVE teasing and orgasm control, edging, combining humiliation with praise, sensation play (inc tickling, overstimulation), ddlg, petplay, restraints, predicaments, receiving worship, oral fixation, breeding (fantasy only), giving training and protocol, among many many others. Not a fan of toilet play/filth, blood, intense pain or abdl.

It's also extremely important to me that conversations happen around consent, limits, aftercare and emotional needs, as well as following through on our promises to respect them. I need to spend time getting to know each other for a bit to establish this foundation of familiarity before jumping into any play itself. Happy to discuss more about kinks and limits in messages!

Who I'm attracted to: I gravitate toward people who are creative, enthusiastic and enjoy learning, who challenge me and make me want to improve myself. People who share a need for mental connection -- laughter, banter and absurdity, funny observations, goofy/stupid references, affection, closeness, communication, emotional openness and vulnerability. People who are anti toxic masculinity, in touch with themselves, and have an awareness of & respect for the people and world around them. I find passion and drive infinitely attractive and want to help people pursue their goals and passions!

Physically, my type is shorter / smoler folks who take care of themselves physically and present feminine to androgynous, with a massive soft spot for alt, artsy or bookish vibes.

If you find any of this enticing, feel free to send me a message! Please say more than just "hi". Hope to hear from you :)