I value clear and open communication. So with that in mind let me lay out the specifics of what I am seeking. After I have done that I will get into details about myself.

I'm not looking for an online dynamic that will fizzle out in a few days or weeks. I'm not looking for something platonic. I am fully monogamous so I am not looking to join a poly relationship. I am not looking for someone who is perfect because nobody is. I am looking for someone who can be open about what they want and need. Someone ready to settle into a loving and passionate relationship where we both care and provide for one another as best we can. Nobody can always give 100% but when one falters the other picks up the slack. This is the kind of relationship I am seeking. I'm far too old and too tired to cut corners or mince words. So if you are not ready for what I have described please do not waste my time or yours. If you have read this far and find you are not ready then I wish you all the happiness and luck you deserve. If my words have piqued your interest then please read on.

DOMINANCE THROUGH KINDNESS

I am a pure soft Dom. I prefer to create an atmosphere where all needs and wants (Within reason) are met. I detest punishments and much prefer to reward good behavior and find the root of bad behavior. The vast majority of the time when a Sub acts out it is not out of malice but because they have a need that is not being met. I take that very serious as that is a failure on my part whether by accident or negligence. Either way though it is my duty to find this failure and correct it. Though I am not perfect which is why I constantly reinforce the importance of open communication. If I am doing my duty properly then my sub never has any fear of coming to me about even the smallest of issues. They know they are safe, heard and respected. As it should be.

I will not go into details on kinks here but suffice to say I am adaptable. I do not have experience with every detail of every kink but I have no issue with learning what I need to in order to see my Sub happy. After all I am a pleasure Dom. So their happiness makes me deliriously happy. I will stress I am a soft Dom though. So if you are looking to have the snot kicked out of you then I am not what you want. I would do it but my heart would not be in it. I know that about myself all too well.

This is not a kink for me however. Being a caregiver is in my bones as much as being a Dominant is. I can not simply turn these parts of myself on and off. I am always my partners Dominant, Caregiver, friend and lover. Which ever is needed in the moment is always prepared to spring into action. Though I am not exactly 24/7 either. It is more that these dynamics are seamlessly weaved into the day to day of the relationship. If that makes sense. My partner is the center of my world. Them before everything. Always.

Now there are finer details that I can't put into this text box. If I did I would be writing a novel here. I have however included a broad picture. Enough I hope to allow you to decide whether this is something you would enjoy or need in your life. So I will move this along.

VIDEO GAMES, COFFEE AND PHILOSOPHICAL RAMBLINGS

Now that I have covered the Caregiver and Dominant sides of me I would like to go into who I am on the "vanilla side". At first glance I am 6' and 200lbs (working on getting this down a bit) of redneck. I wear flannels and denim and even a cowboy hat now and then when I'm not wearing a ball cap. I'm working on updating my wardrobe a bit however. I'm always had a utilitarian approach to clothing but a splash of color wouldn't hurt.

Should you make it past the first glance you'll find a fine mix of southern charm and full blown nerdy introvert. I love video games, anime and table top games. I read any book I can get my hands on. I have an eclectic selection of music playing 24/7. My general taste in everything can be described as eclectic. I've never really confined myself to and one genre of anything. Very much a part of my "Time is short so live like it's already ran out" philosophy.

I could ramble on about myself more but I want to leave some level of mystery about myself. Can't hand it all to you on a silver platter now can I?

WHO SHOULD YOU BE?

Now this part is rather simple. I know exactly who and what I'm looking for. After so many failed attempts I believe I've nailed this down pretty well. I'm looking for someone between 20 and 32. No kids and no desire to have them. A gamer and nerd like myself. (I don't want a non-nerd trying to drag me to yoga or night clubs.) You don't need to be thin but be a healthy weight. I myself fit well into "dad bod" territory but I'm working on fixing that. Please be ready for a relationship. We all have trauma to deal with but if that trauma makes it so you can't form close bonds or be intimate (I don't mean sex) then please don't make me fall for you only to figure out you can't do a relationship. Be an introvert who prefers to keep outings to trips to the mall (Like Build-A-Bear!), out for food or the theater a few times a month. I work 5 days a week and don't want to spend my weekends always running all over the place. Be ready to learn and participate in my nerdy hobbies and ready to teach me about yours so we can enjoy plenty of time together. Bonus if you're clingy as I am. Even if we aren't doing anything together I want you close enough to reach out and touch or lean over and kiss. My lap is always an available seat. lol

THAT WAS A LONG READ HUH?

Well I think I have rambled on long enough. So let me wrap this up by saying I wish you the best of luck if I am not what you are searching for. If I am then please send me a message here and we can transition to another app soon as you are ready (Reddit is terrible to message on for me).