Hey there!

So, I'm Chris. I'm 31, I live in SC, have a comfy little office job and own my own home and I am really just out here looking to straight up fall in love. Like the title says, I'm a hopeless romantic who's found himself in a number of very difficult (read: abusive) relationships throughout his life but refuses to give up on this idea of finding the right person. I'm coming off the back of an engagement crashing and burning last year. I've given myself a year to heal and I am really trying to put myself back out there at this point. I'm not having too terribly much luck with the modern dating scene, hence my trying out Reddit. As a partner, I am a very loving and affectionate, touch oriented person. I am an excellent communicator and I know what I am looking for. I hope to find someone I can relate to and feel completely comfortable with. I want to feel like the life I'm building with someone else matters again. Look, I really just want to fall in love out here. I'm easy to please, we could make each other so happy. so much fun.
That is ultimately my goal - building a comfortable, safe, structured, EXTREMELY loving connection with someone else with just the right amount of spice and snuggles.
I'm a big nerd, so my hobbies are the typical introvert stuff - literature, film, art, philosophy, gaming, left wing politics, etc. A fun fact about me is I am fluent in Japanese and have a strong passion for retro video games with no English translation. Like I said, I'm a huge nerd! I do enjoy being outdoors hiking or in nature from time to time but it helps when I have a partner with me to help me feel safe and not quite so exposed.
Kink wise, I'm into a lot. I'm open to trying almost everything. My hard limits really begin and end with permanent damage and bloodplay. I tend to fall towards the softer side of things, though. Most of my biggest kinks revolve around age regression, ABDL and just CG/l in general. Lots of light humiliation and training and blushy stuff. I've been into this before I even knew it had a name. I thought I was all alone and just weird until I was in my 20s and I found this huge community of people who are like me. I've had some experience in practicing CG/l (DDLG is perhaps a better descriptor? not sure at this point), my last relationship featured this dynamic quite heavily but it honestly never really got as deep as I'd like it to have. So to be completely clear, I'm not new to this, but I might need some patience to get things perfect as things go along. I pinky promise not to let you down and to make you smile at least 5 times a day, though :)
Physically I'm 6'0, bearded, ~210lbs, white with a teddy bear physique. I'm decently in shape and working out almost daily at this point. Physical compatibility is VERY important to me, and I am completely up front about that. If you are interested and decide to message, PLEASE include a selfie! I will share mine if we are compatible.

DEALBREAKERS
Be at least 23 and out of college
Be at least within the USA and willing to meet sooner rather than later - the closer the better
Bonus points for petite/short girls, please be somewhat in shape as working towards health goals is important to me
No poly/ENM of any kind
Cis women only
If you made it this far, I look forward to hearing from you! What's your name? How did you get into this dynamic? What are you looking for out of it? What makes you feel small? Are you lonley? Any Reddit dating horror stories? Are you high right now? Do you ever get nervous?
Let's get to know each other :)