Hey there 👋🏻 I’ve been lurking for a while, trying to “read the room” on Reddit and decide if I wanted to post. I have used other platforms, and after some lackluster experiences elsewhere I have decided to give Reddit a go.

Online to start is fine, preferred even. I’m not in a hurry, and I want to get to know you as a person before the spicy stuff commences. I really don’t care where you live in the US, though it would be easiest to connect if you were in Eastern time or Central time. If you’re willing to travel to meet at some point, then so am I. I have a flexible career and relocation isn’t off the table.

A little about me: 5’2”, shoulder length blonde hair, blue eyes. I take good care of myself, so I look younger than my age. I have a curvy shape I love. I am a mother and there’s no denying it and I have no desire to appear as though I never had a baby. I have an hourglass-leaning-towards-pear-shaped figure that turns heads in public. I am willing to exchange recent SFW pictures, and respect if at first those pictures do not include faces.

Vanilla stuff: Established career in healthcare, intelligent, articulate, and very extroverted. I believe health is wealth, and I strive for balanced, healthy living. I try to eat well and move my body regularly. My friends describe me as kind, compassionate, loyal, and “bubbly.” I can find a song lyric in just about anything, and gifs are my second language. I enjoy reading, traveling, a variety of outdoor activities, SEC football, beaches, Marvel movies, and socializing with my people. I hate cold weather. I am hyper-verbal and connect with conversation, which can come across as “needy” but I really just enjoy talking to people.

I have one child, grown and out of the home. I love kids and I welcome your high school aged and above children, but understand that I have no desire to start over in child-rearing. Grandkids are absolutely okay, too!

Spicy stuff: I have a strong praise kink - I gain the most satisfaction and pleasure from being a good girl. I don’t consider myself a brat, however, my particular brand of sass could be construed as brattiness. I sass as cheeky banter, not to get attention for “funishments.” Again, I want to hear “good girl” because I pleased you. Negative reinforcement does nothing for me.

I like subtle, discreet forms of TPE, and so 24/7 is negotiable. If there has been a task or expectation communicated and I’ve met it, my expectation is that my submission is promptly acknowledged.

Beyond that, I have a long list of kinks and I’ve found that chemistry profoundly influences those leanings, so those can be discussed between the two of us. I don’t particularly take a lot of stock in kink quizzes for absurdly nerdy and academic reasons, so don’t ask me for quiz results.

Hard Limits: blood, knives, scat, urine, permanent marks, severe bruising, CNC, being ignored/silent treatment, yelling.

The Dom for me: /-5 years of my age (no age gaps, thanks), experienced (>5 years), single (no relationship attachments), patient, emotionally mature (doesn’t ghost), excellent communicator, and is at a place where he has the time, effort, and energy available to give. He wants me to spam his inbox starting with scheduled good morning messages, followed by the outfits he’s picked out for me to wear, updates on how much water I’ve had to drink, when I’ve arrived safely at my destinations, and whatever else he or I feel needs sharing before we end the day with good night messages.

The Dom for me deeply respects my intellect, strength, and resilience, and treats my submission like the beautiful, priceless gift that is. He understands that it is my choice to give it, and he wants to be worthy of it. He wants me to feel safe, secure, and satisfied in all areas of my life, not just in his hands. He wants to help guide and support me in the things I want to accomplish, and holds me accountable to the steps I need to take to achieve them. He’s observant, intuitive, and intentional.

He has quiet, alpha male energy that separates him from “alphaholes” and toxic narcissists who aren’t really interested in D/s, they just want rough sex.

I’m 41, not 14, so communication and conversation eventually moving beyond digital platforms is essential. I have no desire for endless kinky chatting and/or sexting. If you are going to ask me for my Snap, I’m not the woman for you, so you can stop right here and move on to the next post.

If you have a pattern of ghosting, please do us both a favor and scroll on by. If you are not able to communicate your exit with grace and respect, then we probably wouldn’t get on well anyway.

It is essential that I feel that you are focused on me and that my best interest is important to you, because that’s how I will be for you. I won’t have a bunch of other Doms in my DMs, and I expect the same respect to not be one of many in a digital harem. The deep, emotional connection of the D/s dynamic is what I’m craving, and that can’t be cultivated if I don’t feel like I can connect with you because I can sense your attention is divided.

I don’t have a type per se, other than at least 5’10”, no tobacco or vape use, no recreational drugs, and an established career. I appreciate good health and an active lifestyle, but I don’t expect 6-pack abs or V-cut hips. I prefer Sir or Daddy for honorifics over Master. Daddy Doms, hairy chests, and vasectomies to the front of the line.

If you’d like to know more, send a message with approximately how many unread emails you have in your primary email account. We can laugh and compare notes 😂 I’m a raging extrovert so I always enjoy meeting new people!