Before DMing me, I ask that you please read both this post AND the other post on my profile (which is a post in r/polyamoryr4r), because I don't want to put all that here and make this into a novel, but it's all important info about me and I'm not interested in chatting if you haven't read and understood the full picture. I get that this is a lot (both posts are a bit long) and I'm really reaching with this search lol, but who knows. Maybe I'll strike a chord with someone here.

Anyway, I'm Winnie/Winter! I'm queer and nonbinary/genderqueer (they/she), and AFAB. I'm currently in western-central PA, but I'm planning on moving to Columbus, OH before the end of the year--but I'm also totally fine with long-distance.

I'm polyamorous. I have one partner currently and we date separately. (More info on this in my other post.)

This is really important: I'm queer4queer. This means I'm only interested in seeing other queer people. Cis, straight men: please do not message me regarding this post. Beyond that, I don't care what your gender/sexuality/etc is.

Just in case you decide not to read my other post as requested: I don't date cishets, Christians, or conservatives. I'm not interested.

I'm disabled/chronically ill and sometimes face barriers and limitations in what I can do. But I will always give 100% effort and 100% devotion.

I'm fairly kinky in theory, still a bit inexperienced in practice. I do need to have a real connection with someone outside of sex, so I'm not looking for a kink-onky/sex-only dynamic. I'm submissive, and I'm looking for someone who can fill the role of being dominant for me not only sexually, but... somewhat incorporating it into lifestyle as well. I definitely do not need TPE, nor am I interested in that; but it would be nice to have some rules and structure in my life where I have none. I need someone who would genuinely enjoy taking care of a sub (with the understanding that I'm polyamorous, disabled, and generally just... not always/only a sub) and also wants to have a relationship beyond the kink dynamic. So ideally, I'm interested in someone who would be my partner first, and then also happens to my dom(me).

Kinks: I'm like 98% submissive. It takes a lot to pull anything dominant out of me lol. Bondage, spanking, choking, praise and degradation, exhibitionism and voyeurism, group sex, ddlg/mdlg, double penetration, knife play, somno, cnc, public sex (within reason). I'm definitely not a brat, but I can be a bit of a princess. Mostly I just want to be someone's good girl. Any of this could be on or off the table; I'm not necessarily looking for someone to fulfill every single of of my kinks! Ddlg/mdlg is sort of a big one; it would be nice to meet a daddy dom or mommy domme. I'm also open to other stuff depending on what my potential partner would be into, but I do have some hard limits like piss/scat, generally illegal stuff, etc, and I usually like to make it known that I'm not a masochist (obviously with my kinks I like a little pain and danger lol--but nothing extreme, so I probably wouldn't do well with a sadist). I think I'd do well with a soft dom(me)/cg who has a bit of a dark side lol

I would love to talk and get to know each other first, and establish if we'd be interested in each other/compatible/etc. Then delve into dating, and setting up rules and boundaries surrounding a kink dynamic within that relationship. Full disclosure that I'm a survivor of CSA--I've had lots of therapy, but you're gonna have to earn my trust before we get to the sex.

If I haven't scared you away yet, DM me your favorite color (helps me to know you've read the whole post lol). Let's see what we can build together ❤️