TDLR: caring dom / daddy type looking for an intelligent, passionate sub to cherish and do bad things to

I’m tall (5'11”), fit, brown-eyed with a mixed heritage (Caucasian and South Asian). Over educated and overworked, generally described as having a very fun personality.

My ideal partner is likely between the ages of 19 - 37 :: sane, educated, kind, curious, submissive and kinky. I’m attracted to passionate, thoughtful women who also want me to discipline, train, use, and adore them. I'm ideally looking for a long-term partner in all aspects of my life - both my significant other and my submissive. If we happen to live far apart, relocation wouldn’t be a problem in the long term if a romantic relationship develops.

I think physical chemistry is critical - but very much only the first step as the richness of any relationship goes far beyond that. I want a partner who is my intellectual equal - although I want to exercise “control” in some aspects - I want to admire my partner, be challenged by them in our conversations daily, and cherish them and their accomplishments - so something short of TPE but open to things that may extend beyond the bedroom. I am someone who needs to feel useful to my partner - it oddly correlates with my kink preferences that I want to be helpful / solve / support in every aspect - which probably leads into the Daddy thing.

"Caring Sadist, Daddy Dominant with a mixture of that primal toxicity that seeps in occasionally" is the easiest way to describe my preferences and needs - or alternatively "likes to do "not so" nice things to nice girls". Supporting and caring for my partner is paramount - I want to be a net positive in all aspects, not just kink. Generally flexible and open - specific activities, props, etc. are tools to foster a particular dynamic, which is what I care about more than a detailed kink list, although I have my favorites - must love spanking, orgasm control and training (for example). There are definitely aspects of DDLG and more traditional D/s that enjoy - it's just about intimacy, trust, and play, regardless of what archetypes we're using, and have had happy dynamics in both spaces.

Passionate cook, tea addict, hiker, enthusiastic but mediocre athlete, wine and art history nut, and general goof. Good at giving large, fluffy dogs (best kind of dog) neck rubs (and my scalp massage / neck rub game isn't too terrible with people). Overly engaged with politics (liberal), very niche food topics, and a range of other topics that may or may not be conducive to my blood pressure.

Thanks for reading!