Background: My np|little is going through a lot right now. She recently lost a close family member I had no idea about (thanks Covid). Prior to this sudden occurrence, we were fighting a lot which has been pretty well resolved.

NP: is very strong willed and fights back against perceived control and has a hard time showing emotions. She is working on it and doing a lot better.

Little: is very new, we recently switched from M/s to CG/l and it is feeling a lot more natural and meeting both of our needs. Unfortunately, we haven’t had a chance to establish transition activities or signals outside of just asking.

Advice: How do I know when to approach as nesting partner and when to approach as daddy? When I directly ask, I get back “idk”.