It may just be me, but I've noticed more and more these past few years these kinks have become more sexualized, or at least that what the majority of the ad posts I see (that may be the problem haha).

Don't get me wrong, I definitely enjoy the fun time moments with my sub or little when I'm in a dynamic, but it always has its time and place. I mean most of us aren't asexual, everybody has those needs of course.

I just feel like it's so much harder to find someone who actually wants a dynamic for the dynamic's sake, not just to get off. I'd love to hear anyone else's thoughts, whether you agree or disagree.

**Edit - To clarify, I'd never judge someone on how they live their lives or how they express their kinks/lifestyle. I guess the better way to word this; as someone mentioned in a reply, "I feel like these kinks have become more casual and less intimate." Maybe that's what I'm seeing lately, more people on just to get off and less about finding a dynamic.

Who am I to judge though? Even casual fun has it's place. I've been there myself before, but to me it's so much more enjoyable when there is that emotional connection and closeness shared with it.

Of course kink is rooted/based on sexual tones, I guess I feel like it's shown more nowadays as solely that or it's main focus.