My entire life from birth i was never submissive. I probably was reincarnated from a samurai warlord or something. I was a brat badass growing up and when I got bullied I fight back as hard as I got.

It also had alot to do with me being nonbinary and more masculine ,gender nonconforming even though I was born female.

But I feel like because of that I'm constantly rejected and ignored in my search to find a caregiver.

I'm willing to be vanilla and romantic.

But in no way can I ever be submissive. I do not want submissive roles or feminine roles at all. And I also am ace/ demi therefore I want to be platonic unless I'm actually in a monogamous committed relationship.

I really thought caregiver little was not so much about cis or bdsm gender roles like ddlg but more about those of us who are little and a caregiver that isn't dominant but more about nurture?

Is caregiver little only for daddy doms and submissive female littles?

And is there any other subreddit or website that might be better suited towards those of us who don't fall in that spectrum?

I'm really tired of suffering alone and not even being able to find a platonic friend because I don't fit in the cookie cutter expectations :(