I feel like my best friend is sometimes intentionally ignorant of my issues. Like she expects me to power through and not be THAT sick, for things she deems important enough to spend energy on.

In a rare moment of leaving the house, my bf and I went to her place so I could work on some content for my internet business endeavors. This is a new thing for me and I’m hoping the side hustle will pay for a prescription now and then so I’m taking it as seriously as possible, given my huge energy and time constraints. She knows this and was very supportive of us coming over for that purpose.

But when we got there, my friend insisted we go to the rooftop first to smoke. I hadn’t been up there before so I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I just knew the building has an elevator, and my friend knows I had used the elevator to get to her room. She also knows I use a cane.

So I agree to go to the roof and all of us head up there. We took the elevator to the 8th floor. She didn’t communicate the stairs situation so when the elevator wouldn’t go to 8, we went to 7 and walked up. I thought we were walking to the roof one floor up, so I was willing to walk the one floor.

We walked to 8 and then I found I had to go another floor up to get to the rooftop. So that was two floors of stairs already. That’s almost 30 steps. Then we got outside and there were two more flights of stairs to get to the rooftop deck.

When I saw the two more flights outside and it had already taken so much out of me to do the two floors inside, I refused to go any further. I sat on a step and waited for about five minutes while we all had a short smoke break and then I went back inside with my bf, ahead of my friend and her bf.

Thought I’d be ok but within 10 minutes of coming back inside, my body was like “F you and your stairs B****!” and I crashed hard. So they put me in the bathtub and it has slightly revived me. Now I’m sitting here venting.

But I’m pissed and hurt that my best friend has such a hard time understanding my limitations and illness when she is around me so much already. Like I don’t know what else to say to her.

Bc I’m like “that was too many stairs” and she’s like “I know but I wanted you to see how beautiful it is up here”

Or “I can’t walk that far” and she says “I know but maybe I can give you a piggy back part way!” (She’s smaller than I am, is about 5 feet tall and 100 pounds, and holding onto someone for a piggy back DOES take energy, contrary to popular belief. I didn’t see that as a realistic option.)

Anyway I’m upset with her and I’m upset that I can’t get my content done bc of her for the second night in a row. (Last night was another chaos show entirely.)

I don’t have the energy for this shit. Like at all.

This is a vent for sure, but if you have advice on how I can better communicate with this person I am all ears.

The most confusing part about this for me is that she is also dealing with her own invisible illnesses, including fibromyalgia. We have a lot of similar symptoms. I’m always so compassionate and understanding about her health and limitations. I wish she would do the same for me.