Hello! 😊

Note: I know this post is a bit lengthy, but I believe in being open and transparent. I wanted to give you a clear picture of who I am and what I’m looking for. If you prefer a shorter version, feel free to scroll to the bottom for a TL;DR. Thanks for taking the time to read it!

Location: I’m a software developer living in Phoenix, Arizona. My current employer requires me to reside in AZ, but my profession allows for fully remote positions with many other companies. I’m actively seeking an employer who offers this flexibility, especially if I enter a long-distance relationship. I’m willing to travel and relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad if we find a strong connection. I hope you'd be willing to do the same for me, should your circumstances permit it. I can technically live in another state as long as it's not for the majority of the year, which should help with a LDR.

For now, I want to move to Philadelphia. It’s way too hot and dry here! 🥵 I believe living there will increase my chances of dating locally, including nearby cities like Baltimore, DC, and NYC. Just think of all the fun day trips we could take together! Being within a 2-hour flight of most of the U.S. population would also make long-distance relationships more feasible.

I aim to live car-free, so other walkable cities like Chicago, DC, and Seattle would also be ideal if I had a partner there to help justify the high cost of living. That said, it’s not a hard requirement. What are your thoughts on relocating for love?

Hobbies: I enjoy good food and love trying new restaurants. While I don’t do a lot of fancy cooking at the moment, I hope to revisit it in the future—it’s always a fun date option! Quality TV, movies, and books are also high on my list, with a particular fondness for animated works. Studio Ghibli films are definitely a highlight for me!

I used to write from time to time and would like to try my hand at it again someday. I also want to explore local attractions once I move, like museums, botanical gardens, and festivals. While I enjoy going out, I’m not into overnight or extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, or rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears! 🥱

My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier for me. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest, but it’s not a necessity.

What are some of your favorite cuisines or games?

Appearance: I’m 5’9", 130 lbs., and Caucasian/German with brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes. I have a slim build and a traditional look (not feminine presenting). I take pride in my appearance and exercise regularly to stay healthy and fit.

Personality: I’m rather introverted and a good listener. While I can be talkative, it’s usually with someone I enjoy being around. I love deep conversations and consider myself to be pretty introspective. I appreciate meaningful connections and enjoy spending time in quieter settings, whether that’s a cozy café or a peaceful walk.

Relationship Preferences:

• Starting Point: I’m hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.
• Dealbreakers: Dealbreakers for me include smoking, being a picky eater (I prefer omnivorous diets), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I don’t own pets and don’t plan to, as I’m more of a cat person—dogs don’t do much for me.
• Lifestyle Choices: I don’t drink or use soft drugs (like marijuana), but I’m okay with my partner using them as long as it’s not excessive or indicative of an addiction.
• Monogamy & Age Preferences: I’m only interested in monogamy and ideally looking for someone between the ages of 20 to 32. I could consider someone a bit older, but younger would likely feel uncomfortable.
• Future Goals: I’m childfree and envision a dual income, no kids (DINK) lifestyle. If you’re a remote worker, that’s a bonus! While I’m not against someone taking care of me, I recognize that might be a stretch! 🤣
• Values & Beliefs: I’m an atheist and politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs. It’s important that we share similar worldviews.
• Physical Preferences: I have preferences for taller women with pale skin, natural brown or red hair, or an alt look, but what truly matters is someone who takes care of their appearance and health.
• Personal Growth: I strive for independence and self-sufficiency, with long-term goals like achieving FIRE and owning a home. I’m more sensitive and in touch with my emotions than the traditional masculine archetype, and I’m working on my self-confidence. I want a partner who loves and accepts those parts of me, fostering vulnerability on both sides.
• Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and ambition are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.
• Role Reversal: I love the idea of role reversal—where I can be cared for and protected—but I’m also committed to supporting my partner equally. In a relationship, I believe effort and care should go both ways. I’m looking for someone who can match that balance!
• Mutual Respect: Ultimately, I want a relationship built on mutual love and respect, where neither of us feels lesser due to our personalities or preferences.

TL;DR:

Location:

I’m a software developer currently in Phoenix, AZ, but I’m looking to relocate to Philadelphia for its walkability and proximity to major cities. I’m open to remote work and willing to travel or relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad.

Hobbies:

I love good food and trying new restaurants, and while I’m not a fancy cook yet, I hope to explore it more. I enjoy quality TV, movies (especially Studio Ghibli), and video games like the Zelda series and Stardew Valley. I’m also interested in local attractions like museums and festivals, but I’m not into extreme outdoor activities or sports.

Appearance:

5'9", 130 lbs., Caucasian/German with brown hair and blue eyes. I have a slim build and a traditional look. I take pride in my appearance and stay fit through regular exercise.

Personality:

I’m introverted, a good listener, and appreciate deep conversations. I enjoy quieter settings, whether it’s a cozy café or a peaceful walk.

Relationship Preferences:

• Starting Point: Friends first, then see where it goes.
• Dealbreakers: Smoking, picky eaters, and irresponsible pet owners.
• Lifestyle Choices: I don’t drink or use soft drugs, but I’m okay if my partner does moderately.
• Monogamy & Age: Looking for monogamy with someone aged 20-32.
• Future Goals: Childfree, DINK lifestyle, and striving for financial independence (FIRE).
• Values: Atheist, politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs.
• Physical Preferences: I prefer taller women with naturally brown or red hair—or an alt look if dyed—but what truly matters is taking care of your health and appearance.
• Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and ambition.
• Role Reversal: If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic - and I'd bring my best to make it a strong, supportive partnership too.
• Mutual Respect: Seeking a relationship built on mutual love and respect.

Let’s Connect!

I’d love to hear from you if you think we’d be a good match! I’m open to sending pictures or video chatting privately once we’ve connected.