UPDATE: while my original post below has stayed the same, it’s come to my attention I should clarify some things to not waste your time or mine. I take my putting myself out there very seriously ( as I am sure many of us do) and in order to confirm we are not talking to scammers, weirdos who collect information on strangers, etc. should we want to move forward with getting to know eachother I think it’s fair a phone call or video chat to confirm ourselves is needed. I respect if that is not comfortable for you but that is how serious I am taking my search and we should not engage if this is uncomfortable for you. Wish you all the best!

Hi,

I’ve been dating over the last few years and have come to terms with my need for a dynamic in my lifelong relationships—something out of the ordinary. So this may be a little out of pocket for the childfree (I am child free and do not want children) subreddit but I figured I’d give it a shot since I’m betting on us haha.

I am monogamous with a career in sales that lets me travel a good amount in which I am grateful for. The better I do the more I can travel as well. I am hoping for a partner who is also successful in their career and goals but maybe has some freedom to be able to stay at places from time to time in which I have to travel to. Not a deal breaker if not, though!

I am predominantly a switch, though I’ve leaned more submissive over the past couple of years. I want to find a partner who values, respects, and understands my needs. As I write this, I am more certain than ever that, to feel fulfilled, I need a loving partner whom I feel safe and deeply attracted to in order to fully submit. I’m sure many here can understand the yearning I’m speaking of, and I wish to have that yearning met, fully embraced and cared for by a loving life partner.

It’s essential that my partner and I are highly attracted to each other but obviously I understand as we age things will change. It’s that initial attraction I’m really speaking on, here. I hope you can understand that I can’t help needing to be physically attracted to my partner—I’ve tried to change this, but it’s an essential part of connection for me. So, I’ll ask that you don’t mind sharing SFW photos to ensure we’re compatible in this area if you are attracted to me and will want to video call sometime soon for us to meet and make sure we are real.

My person would be an active person, ideally slim or petite, though height doesn’t matter to me. (I’m 5’6” if that matters to you, and I won’t be offended if it does.) We all have our preferences and deserve to have our needs met! I take my physical and mental health seriously. I work with a personal trainer 4–6 times a week, and I eat healthy most of the time. I also love to cook! My favorite cuisines are probably Mediterranean and Asian.

I like to read, and I’ve been making music and art my whole life, though I’m now focused on my sales career. I previously worked in healthcare sales for a long time, but I’ve since switched industries.

I’m a homeowner, but I’m not tied to my current location. It’s nice to have my own house, but a house becomes a home with your guiding hand.

I recently wrote a book, which is currently being edited. It’s about my relationships with women and how, through those relationships, I’ve come to know myself better. The book explores love and loss, neglect, childhood trauma, lust, desire, boundaries, and self-respect. I mention this because I’ve explored myself mentally and emotionally throughout my life and find therapy to be a wonderful resource.

I’m open to discussing our kinks, and I won’t shame you for yours, but this post is really about LOVE and the search for that, along with the dynamic. Kinks can be discussed anytime in a chat. :)

Safety is such an important factor—to feel safe with someone is almost everything. And I say “almost” because, to feel safe and love someone is everything. That is what I want in my relationship with you. I hope you’re out there, and I look forward to talking more and getting to know each other :)