Hello redditfolk! I'm a 34 year old guy from NJ, USA.

I'm a NEET, which means Not in Education, Employment, or Training. Basically long-term unemployed. I'm a neurodivergent person, but was only recently diagnosed with autism, ADHD, and anxiety, so I spent a lot of years as a shut-in without any help. For the last few years, I've been trying to improve myself and my life situation, but I don't want to promise anyone that my NEET status will ever change. I know it's a deal breaker for many, so I like to be upfront about it.

For the few who are still reading, I'm also into antique/vintage items, computers, video games, Lego, and various other nerdy hobbies. I'm mostly indoorsy, but enjoy occasional outings, such as going to flea markets. I'm dedicated to being childfree and also an antinatalist. I'm politically left, religiously agnostic, and try to be open to everyone's ways of thinking and living. People should be free to be who they are or want to be as long as they're not hurting anyone.

I'm looking for someone who is also kind, honest, childfree, monogamous, and totally single. I'm probably most compatible with someone who has nerdy hobbies and is also indoorsy like I am. I would love to go on some trips and adventures with a spcial someone, but probably not to the extent of skydiving or traveling the entire world. I don't want to hold anyone back from the experiences they want to have. If you would enjoy simple things like building Lego, playing board games, walks in the park, and going thrifting together, then we might be a good match!

Physically, I'm 5'11" and ~190lbs with blue-green eyes, brown hair, usually a stubble of facial hair, and glasses. I'm completely substance-free; no alcohol, drugs, or smoking. I'm reasonably healthy and kind of cute, I'd say. I think it's a good idea to exchange photos after a bit of chatting, and be totally honest with each other about whether or not we're attracted, just to get it out of the way.

It would be nice to find a lady who lives close to northwestern NJ, but I realize I'm looking for a needle in a haystack, so I'm open to people from anywhere in the world. Maybe we can figure out a way to meet someday, or just enjoy being together from a distance, in the ways that we can. Ultimately, being with the right person from a distance is better than being with the wrong person nearby, and has more potential to become something lasting. Feel free to send me a message or open a chat!