Hello! 😊

Note: I know this post is a bit lengthy, but I believe in being open and transparent. I wanted to give you a clear picture of who I am and what I’m looking for. Thanks for taking the time to read it!

Location: I’m a software developer living in Mesa, Arizona. My current job mandates that I live in AZ, but my profession would allow for a fully remote position with many other companies. I’m currently seeking an employer who will permit this flexibility, and I will expedite the process if I enter a long-distance relationship. I want to move to Seattle or Philadelphia for now. It’s way too hot and dry here! 🥵 Living car-free is a goal of mine, so other walkable cities like Chicago, DC, and Boston would also be ideal if I had a partner there to help justify the high cost of living.

I’m willing to travel and relocate for the right person. If I were to meet someone highly compatible who lives in another country, I’d find a job at a company that allows me to work there. I don’t want distance to be an obstacle. I hope you’d be willing to do the same for me, should your circumstances permit it.

Hobbies: I enjoy good food/trying new restaurants and quality TV, movies, and books. I’m particularly fond of animated works, with Studio Ghibli being a highlight for animated movies. I used to write from time to time and would like to try my hand at it again someday. Once I move, I want to go out every now and then to check out a museum, botanical garden, festival, or go on a walk or hike. I’m not into overnight or extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, and rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears. 🥱

My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being two of my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest, but it isn't a necessity.

Appearance: I’m 5’9", 130 lbs., and Caucasian/German with brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes. I have a standard/skinny-leaning body type and a traditional look (not feminine presenting). I try to keep myself looking nice and exercise every week.

Personality: I’m rather introverted and a good listener. I can be talkative, but only with someone I enjoy being around. I love deep conversations.

Relationship Preferences:

• I’m hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.
• Some dealbreakers for me are smoking, being a picky eater (including anything outside of omnivorous), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I don’t own any pets and never see myself getting one. I’m much more of a cat person, though. Dogs don’t do much for me.
• I don’t drink or use any soft drugs (like marijuana), but I’m OK with my partner using those as long as it’s not excessive or an addiction.
• I’m only interested in monogamy. Ideally, I’m looking for someone between the ages of 20 to 32. I could go a bit older, but younger would probably feel uncomfortable.
• I’m childfree and want to be dual income, no kids (DINK). If you’re a remote worker, that’s even better. Not that I’d necessarily be against the idea of someone taking care of me in that way, but I figure that’s probably a stretch. 🤣
• I’m an atheist (not spiritual in any way) and consider myself politically independent. I'm pro-choice and big on personal freedom in general. Naturally, we’ll want to be on a similar wavelength concerning worldviews.
• I have physical preferences like everyone else. Taller women, pale skin, brown or red natural hair colors, or an alt look if dyed, and a few other things are particularly appealing to me. But the important factor is putting in a reasonable amount of effort into appearance (and health, by extension).
• I try to be independent and self-sufficient, with long-term goals for the future (e.g., achieving FIRE and retiring in Europe). However, I’m not the most traditionally masculine man out there. I’m a bit more sensitive and in touch with my emotions compared to other men, and I can be a little timid at times. I want someone who loves and accepts those parts of me. I want to be vulnerable around my partner and vice-versa.
• Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and ambition/assertiveness are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.
• As I alluded to earlier, I find the idea of role reversal very compelling. It would be nice to feel like I could be the one being protected and cared for, instead of always having to be the stoic protector and provider.
• I want something built on mutual love and respect. I don’t want to be viewed as a lesser person because of my personality and preferences.