Hello there! I’ve recently decided to take my romantic life as serious as my professional life. However, dating apps have been very disappointing for many reasons, but mainly because I live in a very small town with a very conservative culture, in my opinion.

The relevant about me: I’m single, childfree (firmly decided since always), never married, independent and very square with my non-negotiables.

According to my BFF, the following are the most annoying aspects of me:

1. I don’t like dogs. I was bitten by one and I’m scared of them, so I avoid them the most I can. However, I ended up having my own 3 dogos, and they are cool enough.

2. I like cats, I enjoy their fluffy but elegant and quiet company; but in my opinion, animals are just animals, so you’ll never see me trying to explain them the behavior I expect from them like if they understand a thing.

3. I prefer indoor activities. I have a very sensitive skin so I don’t enjoy sun and hot weather.

4. I’m into the spectrum. “Highly functional” meaning I can perfectly handle a party, reunion with friends or fun activities; but “weird” in some aspects considered out of the norm, meaning I don’t like hugs or touching people, I don’t enjoy loud environments, dogs barking, motorcycles (I carry my headphones all the time), etc. Also is important to say that I’m not an auto diagnosed autistic, I have been in therapy and psychotherapy since I was 6 years old, this is not about the trend, this has been my real life.

5. I feel very uncomfortable with accumulation of things. The less things, the better. Just the necessary.

6. I’m very hypocrite with the previous point, because I have many shoes, bags and a huge closet (ordered by type and color). Everything used at least once every three months (the art of having the basics and the accent pieces).

7. I like to follow the rules, since I come from a family that always thought they were over the law and I know the consequences of that. Also following a routine in my life it’s very comfy for me, because I feel I cannot forget or fail in some activities, like in my work I always try to maintain order so I can control my to do’s and also is a very effective way to manage the regular stress in life. Entitled people thinking they are over the law are my least favorite.

8. I just feel attracted to single (because I don’t like to interfere in a current relationship), completely child-free, meaning ZERO DESCENDANTS (because I don’t like the idea of losing my individuality, independence and freedom to take my own decisions without affecting others), tall guys (because I like to wear very high heels sometimes and I don’t like to feel I’m carrying my son to kindergarten). Maybe is important to mention that I don’t feel offended if I’m not attractive for somebody, because I understand that people have different taste for everything, maybe that’s why I’m very honest when I don’t like something. Also, I prefer older guys (39 ), since, in my experience, younger people have a higher probability to change their mind about parenting.

9. Although I struggle with my very literal way of speaking, I’m working very hard to recognize sarcasm, metaphors and something that I classify as “slang meaning of real words” because sometimes people use some words as insults, when I’m just using words with the literal meaning.

10. BONUS: I’ve had just 2 very long relationships in the past (10 years, and 5 years). I learned a lot from them and I have nothing but good things to say about my exes; however, my last relationship left me with a lot of emotional baggage about my own maturity, my necessity of taking a time for myself to be single again after many years, and learning my own coping mechanisms to handle the grief. It took me 4 years of self work in therapy and improvement to feel myself ok and ready to fall inlove again.

I made 3 post before in the 40 sub. The first one very vague and I received a lot of chat requests but from all kind of guys; then I decided to post again and be more specific; however, my election of words was (again) very misunderstood or very rude from me, I’m still deciding…

Good thing, I received at least one good feedback and advice, so I decided to post again, trying to be more friendly and clear. Also someone told me about the cf4cf sub, so here I go.

Attending the feedback, some good qualities I find in myself can be the following:

1. I can be very funny, it takes me a while to feel comfortable with new people, but as soon as I feel comfy I’m hilarious. This is something my BFF and my exes always told me.

2. I can be very affectionate. Although I don’t like to be disrespectful with people’s personal space, when you agree I can be in your pocket all the time.

3. I’m attractive enough. Not a supermodel at all, but I’m confident with myself so I can be very relaxed and easygoing sexy.

4. I consider myself intelligent, well educated and I have the theory that I can handle all kind of conversations as long as I find them interesting, because I can be a very good listener too; A thing I like a lot about myself is, I’m not scared of telling you that I’m completely ignorant about something, I’m gonna be glad to learn new topics all the time.

5. I enjoy when people talk about their passions, the most sexy men, in my opinion, are those that can have long conversations about what they love.

6. Despite I don’t enjoy being the center of attention, I always prefer to be overdressed, never under the code.

7. I have a beautiful smile.

8. I like and have several tattoos, but not always visible because I built my closet to fit into a very conservative corporate environment at my work and country.

9. I enjoy all kinds of music, and I spend most of my time listen to it with headphones or loudly in my car., which is the best opportunity to also sing along (I never feel embarrassed if people from other cars see me singing with a lot of emotion).

10. BONUS: Dancing salsa is my thing. I’ve been told I’m very good at it.

If you find yourself curious about how I look I’m ready to share some selfies I took when I was re-writing this, since I’m not like those persons that take pics of them everyday, or their life, or the food they ordered, to put in social media (because I don’t use social media but Reddit). Be ready with your pictures too, please.

EDIT: I’VE RECEIVED SOME VALUABLE FEEDBACK ABOUT SHARING SOME SPECIFIC INFO. HOWEVER, IF YOU CAN’T FIND SOME INFO HERE IN THIS LOOOONG POST, IS BECAUSE I DECIDED TO NOT SHARE IT PUBLICLY. BUT DON’T BE SHY, YOU CAN ALWAYS SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE IF YOU’RE REALLY INTERESTED IN KNOW ME. I WILL ANSWER ALL THE CHAT REQUESTS.

Wish you all a happy day!