I get SO SO many messages that are just “hey.” Automatic delete. I also get men who feel that because I’m fat I should be grateful they’re bestowing their attention on me. Also, dick pics get an automatic delete. (This is only if you send it to me. If you have dick pics on your profile, that’s no issue.) Back to the spouse and why I have the standards I do: 1) He tells me all the time that I’m beautiful. Which I am. And I believe him. 2) He’s great in bed. I mean, GREAT. He is giving, and pays attention to what I want and makes sure I feel good and have great sex. He’s the best I’ve ever had and I’ll not settle for blah when I can just wait for him to be home for WOW. 3) He is intelligent, kind, and puts thought into our interactions. A lot of our communication is via text because of his job, but we don’t have boring conversations.

So. Men. Step it up if you want my attention and a conversation with me. “Hey” just doesn’t cut it.