A few tips for people wanting to join this lifestyle, and in particular to join a couple..

By all means, we are not really that experienced, but Hubby and I have had a few threesome experiences over the past year, so just wanted to really offer these basic but hopefully helpful tips

• BE RESPECTFUL: You as a single person are joining a couple – You need to respect that they are a couple, you are not there to come into their relationship, you are simply there to add a bit of spice to the couple’s sex life. So, you need to respect the male partner, especially if you are talking to him first, and of course the woman, and their relationship.
• BE CONFIDENT (BUT NOT COCKY): Remember to sell yourself, and appear confident, but don’t be a dick! What are some of your talents, skills, what can you offer the couple? What makes you special, from all of the other people that the couple speak to? Make sure you highlight these kinds of talents that you have. And certainly, don’t send rude pics straight away (Unless they ask)
• BE HONEST: Don’t lie – you will get found out sooner or later! Doesn’t matter what it is. Be genuine and up front, if you haven’t been with a couple before, then mention it to the couple so they are aware.
• NO MIND GAMES: If you really aren’t sure if joining a couple is for you, then don’t do it until you are fully ready to explore being with a couple! Don’t play mind games, or mislead the couple on, you are just wasting your time and their time!
• MEET FIRST/PLAY LATER: Offer to have a coffee/chat first and then discuss a play date after – it shows that you aren’t just there for the play, plus then you can get to know your couple and see what the vibe is like, and what they are into (Double points if you offer to shout them a coffee 😉)
• DISCUSS BOUNDARIES/HARD LIMITS: YES! Everyone has hard limits; you need to ask your couple what their boundaries/Hard limits are.. Is the male partner/Husband Bi or straight? You need to talk about what their expectations are. Also talk about your boundaries/hard limits and expectations.. (Preferably before the play date so you know where you stand)
• TALK ABOUT LIKES AND DISLIKES: What do you like? Tell your couple what you are into. Ask them what they are into, and what they don’t like.
• BE SAFE: Of course, wearing condoms are a safe bet in this lifestyle, but you need to talk to your couple about what they are wanting or expecting in terms of this. Also make sure you have your STI Checks done and results ready to show in case your couple askes you. If condoms are required, make sure you bring your own!
• SHOW ENTHUAISUM and BE HONOURED: You have possibly a chance of being with someone’s wife or partner, and they possibly may choose you, so show enthusiasm, keep conversation going, (One worded responses don’t count, sorry!)
• CONNECTION IS KEY: Put in a bit of effort to really connect with your couple. Ask them questions. Get to know them like they were your mates.
• MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION: It will help you with being able to get a meet/play date, and maybe future play dates with them if they are happy with you, and even later on more referrals from other couples as they will want to rave about how good you are.
• HAVE FUN: This is what it is all about – having harmless, drama free fun. You are joining a couple because they are wanting to have fun and to spice up their sex life, so enjoy it. Give the couple the best time of their lives.
• AFTERCARE: Talk about Aftercare, does the couple want you to stay around for a little bit after the play? Do they want you to stay around for cuddles, kisses, chats, or will they want you to leave straight away after the play has finished? This is something that not a lot of people do, please reach out to us if you are not sure what aftercare is.

We do hope that this might help some of you out with wanting to join the lifestyle, of course these are very basic tips, but please reach out if you have any questions about any of these things, or if you have any questions wanting to join a couple.

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