I've recently did a rewatch and I honestly can't see what some people are seeing.

And neither did the ladies of BtVs. They loved him. Right throughout the series.

My guess Is that people are mistaking Xander for Joss Whedon. Well, guess what, Xander isn't Joss. Xander is a gentleman, and he loves women, and he has respect for women. Joss does not.

I've heard Xander being called everything from a misogynist to a sexual predator to a woman hater, etc.

Are these people watching the right show? Faith and Anya initiate sex with him. He doesn't take advantage of Buffy when she's under the love spell. He freely admits that he's best friends with women, he doesn't flinch when he's called "one of the girls" and several times he saves the lives of... everyone.

Yes. What a bad, bad, bad man. In terms of badness, Xander Lavelle Harris isn't exactly on the same level as Hitler or Darth Vadar. However, some people would gladly cite Xander as the baddie and the wolf in sheep's clothing.

In a show where Willow rapes Tara, Buffy rapes Spike (when she's invisible), Cordelia is mean to every Sunnydale male that doesn't own a trust fund and Anya has spent decades killing men, labelling Xander as a misogynist is simply unhinged and it's a degree of double standards and hypocrisy that I never thought possible.

As I said, the ladies of BtVs adored him. The fact that a certain mob don't, it makes me sad, as they're missing out on a major aspect of the entire show.

Also, by disliking/hating/thinking that Xander does bad things, etc, you're pretty much saying that you know more than Buffy, Willow, Anya, Tara and Cordelia and you're calling them stupid. As they all love him.

Also, Marti Noxon (a woman) was pretty much Joss's replacement from season 4 - 7. She had more power than anyone on the show. But I suppose that doesn't matter to some people. Xander could've turned Gay, saved several all girls schools, and then become transgender and this mob would still accuse him of hating women and being problematic.

I feel deeply sorry for these people who can't enjoy the show. Instead, they have to be toxic and angry, and they have to create a fake monster in order for the present to appear enlightened.

These are the types of people who use words like "mansplaining", etc. Which is ironic, using a deeply sexist and condescending word to describe an apparent sexist and condescending act.

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