My baby girl is one year old and has been in a pet store that whole time in a tiny cage with tens of other budgies coming and going. I knew it would be challenging. She wants to be the boss. She knows what I want when I'm trying to train her and she refuses to play along. She will step up when she wants, not when you want, regardless of the treats on offer. If anything she sees it as teasing and gets angry at me for even trying to use treats to train her. In the afternoon she is easier to interact with as she is getting sleepy etc so she's happy to step up and get hugs, yes, in just 4 weeks I have her singing and chirping with me and she mimicks me and also sees if I can keep up with her when she starts barking like the puppies she spent a whole year next to in the pet store. She loves sitting in front of the bathroom mirror and I feel so awful when I try to move her on and she gets upset with me when I do. I have read all the articles that say don't let them have mirrors etc and was wondering, how are bird videos on YouTube any different? Wouldn't that be worse than a mirror? If I don't let her sit on the vanity and play in the mirror or watch videos she will just perch all day and not really do much of anything. She will call me with our special call whenever I leave the room and does not like a cage in any way shape or form so I try to just let her free roam but she doesn't really, she will just pick a perch for the day and she is done. She's happy to chat with me etc but she wants to be independent, she's not interested in sitting on fingers or shoulders, she has done so but gives me that look of being violated, like, dad, I'm too old for this. I'm so confused by her, she seems to want me around all the time but only comes alive in front of bird videos or the mirror, I'm just that giant that forces training on her and she looks at me like, I know you could just give me that rush of seeds, I don't have to jump on your finger, you're just teasing me. Yet she will only eat them when I am holding them. I can hang them for her to help herself and she will take from the one I'm holding rather than the one hanging right beside her. I suspect she's a bit of a princess and I've probably ruined her after only 4 weeks together. The video shows that she is open to bonding but the next day she still totally refuse and have a hissy fit if I don't hold it properly, so she doesn't have to have actual physical contact. The video is early evening, as I've said, she's happy to when she's more tired and getting ready for bed, but if you try any other time she will battle with you and even literally starve rather than step up or even go to her cage where her food is. I'm close to just giving up and letting her have her videos and mirror time and stop trying to force her to play my way. Any thoughts or advice would be great. She's such a nice gentle bird, but she really wants to be the boss