Kinda long story but we met on Reddit and she was supportive. I didn’t reach out at first since I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with partnered open relationships. We hang out and hit it right off. He was surprised how emotionally aware I was and never knew guys could be that way. We had a great chat, fooled around, and he went home happy and messaging me every day.

Well gf is getting insecure. She’s always had him to herself and suddenly isn’t use to sharing him or having someone else capture his attention. We talk about it, I tell him to try to see things from her perspective. We hang out a second time and had dinner and a great chat again. This time he seemed super distracted and always messaging her worried he would upset her. She’s suppose to be hanging out with a friend that night we were chilling and chowing. That night he went home, she got super upset. The suddenly supportive gf was not supportive anymore and my bro talked about whether they would stay together etc..

Here’s where things change. He’s telling me he needs to back off and chill for a bit. Make sure she’s cool. He spends a whole weekend with her and his kids (from first marriage) and sparingly communicates. He’s continuing to say things need to be taken slow etc and that we can still hang but it’ll have to be more sparse.

Come after the weekend, he changes tune and I get this long message about how he needs to have someone who is fully welcome of his gf in every way and that he’s really happy with her and we need boundaries. I’ve always asked how she was feeling and super careful to not rock the boat. Suddenly it feels like I had been accused of doing things that crossed the line or didn’t accept her. I think this guy is nuts and frankly told him I couldn’t put up with the drama. Kinda of why I didn’t reach out to begin with. Well we get into it and he says he’s “dealt with this kind of behavior before” and that I’m the one who is being dramatic. I had a lot of words to say feeling pushed out and tossed out more or less at his leisure. But we’ve more or less blocked each other and he’s off to find the buddy he’s never had again.

Honestly this is a mess and I don’t think I want to connect with open relationship bros again. It’s never ended well..