Hello lovely people, I'm the lucky husband of an amazing newborn and wife.

Baby is less than 2 weeks old and we are trying to suss out our routine. I'm a full time musician/teacher (from home) and she's on maternity leave for 12 weeks so we have all the freedom to work out any routine.

I'm doing everything I can when I can, which is most of the time, because obviously exclusive BF'ing is very exhausting and our priority. Wife is getting less sleep than myself but it's fairly even. She also has always required more sleep than me.

Anyways from about 10pm until 3-5am when feeding they are pretty much both sleeping on and off, but sometimes 30-60 mins at a time.

It's really scary to me to have my wife sleeping even though baby is on the inside side of her (towards the middle of the bed next to me), laying down and surrounded by pillows so the chance of her rolling over onto the baby or baby falling is extremely low.

The nurses at the hospital said under no circumstances does baby sleep in our bed. The vast majority of things I read corroborate this.

Is this okay and all this rhetoric is just "cover your ass" type stuff or is my fear about this founded? I literally don't sleep at all during this because I feel like this activity needs to be supervised. I'm also the helicopter one of the two of us.