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Work & cancer: vent
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With my upcoming medical leave for a double mastectomy, my supervisor has been putting more on my plate rather than less. Iā€™m so stressed and anxious for the surgery and now Iā€™m also stressed and anxious to get all my work done before my leave.

My counterpart is useless. A total bag of hot air. Heā€™s the most arrogant man Iā€™ve met but with none of the skills to back up the attitude. Heā€™s unable to do much of anything correctly which puts more work on me (a pre cancer issue) and also causes my blood pressure to skyrocket.

This counterpart also compared (more than once) his hernia repair surgery, which he took a whole two days off work to recover from, to my upcoming DMX. Once he did this in front of my supervisor (another male) and the next time I literally forwarded my supervisor the email in which I corrected my counterpart saying those surgeries are NOT comparable.

Still my supervisor sticks up for my counterpart, says heā€™s coming from the right place and is trying his best. Theyā€™re both about 15-20 years older than me (Iā€™m 31) and I canā€™t help but think things would be different if I had a female supervisor.

GAHHHHHHHHH

Iā€™m getting so resentful towards them which sucks because otherwise I love my job. Obviously Iā€™d like to do good work and get as much as I can done before medical leave, but the added bullshit is killing me.

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I have thought about going to HR or our female director (whoā€™s a total badass) but I donā€™t want to cause more of a scene/issue just before I leave. Great advice about not going overboard & focusing on myself rather than the work madness..Iā€™ve been getting too sucked into it for sure!

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I looove ā€œbe a reedā€! Thatā€™s beautiful. What a wise husband you have ā˜ŗļø and youā€™re correct, work shouldnā€™t be a priority right now. I just have to keep reminding myself of that!

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Iā€™ve been thinking and hoping the anticipation and anxiety beforehand will be worse than the recovery itself, so thank you for sharing that! It makes me feel better. Iā€™ve been so stressed I canā€™t sleep at night and was just prescribed an anti anxiety med to help with that. Just bought a mastectomy pillow like you described! Great to hear itā€™s super helpful ā˜ŗļø

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